Luke Evans on the "failure" of not finding his soulmate until he was in his 40s - Queerty

Luke Evans, an actor and singer, describes early challenges and later growth. His parents were strict Jehovah’s Witnesses, and he left home at 16 to pursue acting in London. He also experienced being taunted and picked on at school. Evans later came out to his parents and now has a good relationship with them. He connects personal failure to relationship timing, saying he did not find his soulmate until his 40s. He reflects on past relationships as “car crashes” or lessons that ended when compatibility was not there. He notes some former partners remain close, including a best friend from 20 years ago with whom he once shared a house. He believes learning from being alone helped him bring more to relationships now.

"“I'm not saying all the relationships before the person I've met who is my soulmate were a complete disaster,” says Evans. “Some of them were absolute car crashes, and I think we can all relate to that. But there are some that I learned things from, but as the relationship unfolded, we weren't compatible. It just wasn't going to work. Painfully or graciously, they came to a conclusion, and we finished.”"

"“Some of those people are still in my life, and some of them are very close to me. One of them is my best friend from 20 years ago. We were partners for three years. We own a house together.”"

"“But it's a little sad, I feel, getting to 40, I sometimes think, well, wouldn't it have been great to have gone through the whole journey with someone,” ponder Evans."

"He acknowledges that that's not how life turns out, “and maybe what I've learned from these relationships and being alone ... I've learned so much that I can bring so much more to a relationship now. I'm a very different person from 10 years ago."

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