"Multiple studies in 2025, including fresh data from Forbes and the National Survey of Marital Strengths, pinpoint the top five leading causes of divorce as: lack of commitment, infidelity, unresolved conflict, financial stress, and that aching lack of intimacy where partners feel utterly alone even under the same roof. But here's what I believe, from the front lines of sex therapy: All of these threads weave back to one profound disconnection-a loneliness epidemic that's eroding our partnerships from the inside out."
"Start with lack of commitment, cited by a staggering 75% of divorcing couples in recent surveys. It's not that their vows were insincere at the altar; it's that over time, without genuine emotional tethering, one or both partners drifted into isolation. They stopped showing up-not just physically, but vulnerably. And let's be honest: people get complacent and take each other for granted. Those schlumpy sweats you wear at night are not designed to seduce. I'm all for being yourself, but self-neglect is akin to complacency."
More than three decades of clinical experience link chronic loneliness to the primary causes of divorce. Recent 2025 data name lack of commitment, infidelity, unresolved conflict, financial stress, and profound lack of intimacy where partners feel alone as leading factors. Emotional drift and absence of vulnerability produce commitment breakdowns and complacency. Infidelity often functions as a search for validation when desires are unspoken and unmet. Unresolved conflicts escalate because partners are too triggered to hear each other's pain. Financial pressures, cited in 24–36% of separations, intensify disconnection and expose deeper relational fears. Restoring emotional tethering and vulnerable presence counters the loneliness eroding relationships.
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