"I never valued my virginity. I got it just for showing up on earth, right? People make a big deal about this. I mean, I don't really give a shit but for a goof we should really use this before we leave the resort. Instead of saving herself, which she found ridiculous in concept, she was more concerned in saving for and presenting to her true love a collection of sexual skills and an attitude of confidence."
"Instead of saving herself, which she found ridiculous in concept ('What part of myself would I be saving?'), she said she was more concerned in saving for and presenting to her true love 'a collection of sexual skills and an attitude of confidence with which I could express my feelings.' Accruing those, of course, required lesser experiences."
A 20-something woman seeks advice on losing her virginity with someone who will prioritize her enjoyment rather than settling for any random partner. The columnist responds by referencing comedian Jacqueline Novak's perspective on virginity, which reframes the concept away from traditional notions of purity or saving oneself. Novak argues that virginity is not inherently valuable and compares it to an unused voucher. Instead of viewing virginity as something to preserve, she advocates for building a collection of sexual skills and confidence to bring to future relationships. This perspective encourages the letter writer to view her first sexual experience as an opportunity to gain experience and self-assurance rather than as a momentous event requiring the perfect partner.
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