"For the past few years he's been doing prescription treatment. But this year he decided on a hair transplant. We make OK money but no frills, and divide our budget into shared expenses, savings, and personal fun money every month. He's been strict with saving his fun money, and my gift for his birthday this year was a chunk of my fun money towards this procedure too."
"He floated taking a side gig to get to his savings goal more quickly. I feel like a bad spouse but I don't want him to. We're parenting twin toddlers, and we both work full time, so daily life is a chaotic balancing act. I know there are lots of hyper-competent people out there, but if I have to manage more of our kids or household solo while he's at a second job, we might drown."
"Dear Hair Raising Problem, As a general matter, I don't think there's any point in telling people they shouldn't be upset about losing their hair, because it can be really destabilizing and upsetting. So I think it's admirable that you've been so supportive of his desire to get a hair transplant. But I agree that his taking on a second job to fund"
Husband in his 30s is experiencing hair thinning and feels it makes him resemble his deadbeat father. He tried prescription treatment and decided to pursue a hair transplant. The couple budgets shared expenses, savings, and personal fun money, and the wife contributed fun money toward the procedure. Rising costs slowed savings, so he proposed a side gig to reach the goal sooner. The wife fears that additional paid work would overload their parenting of twin toddlers and household management. Overseas surgery is a cost-saving option, but he fears language barriers and a botched procedure. Hair loss can be destabilizing, support for the partner's desire is understandable, yet a second job risks overburdening household capacity.
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