"I never lie. Except when declining an invitation then I always lie. Once, my fiance, Jared, and I were invited to a dinner we didn't want to attend. We were worn out from traveling, and some of the other guests required a lot of energy to be around. I replied in the group text that we already had plans but we were so sorry to miss!"
"Why do people lie? People do lie for malicious reasons to get one over on people, and achieve all the ill-gotten gains that come from deceitfulness, says Matt Lundquist, psychotherapist and clinical director and founder of Tribeca Therapy in New York. But a 2022 study published in the Canadian Journal of Behavioral Science found that some of the most common reasons for lying were altruistic reasons, secretive reasons, and to avoid negative evaluation."
A person lied about having plans to avoid attending a dinner after feeling worn out from traveling and drained by other guests, and the fiancé immediately called out the falsehood. The person values open, honest communication but felt awkward and humiliated when previously caught in lies. The person attempted a two-week no-lying experiment to test whether honesty was always best. Psychotherapist Matt Lundquist notes that lies can be malicious but are often told for altruistic, secretive, or self-protective reasons such as avoiding negative evaluation. Lying frequently serves as a social shortcut because truth can be complicated.
Read at www.theguardian.com
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