The article discusses the emotional fallout after discovering reality in a partner’s journal, particularly regarding sensitive topics like sexual performance. It emphasizes the importance of respecting privacy and the need for safe outlets of expression like journaling. The advisor encourages reflecting on specific language used in the journal to avoid misconceptions, suggesting the hurt feelings may distort perceptions about the relationship. Ultimately, it's advised to communicate openly with your partner about these feelings instead of avoiding intimacy.
Most people in the world have a taboo around reading people's private communications and writings. Part of why that taboo is so valuable is that sometimes we need a space to vent.
Such outlets include anonymous internet posts, long phone calls, meet-ups with trusted friends, and journaling. In your wife's case, she chose a method of venting.
Take a deep breath and consider whether you're sure she thinks you're terrible in bed. Did she write 'my husband is terrible in bed' or similar?
There's still a good chance that the heightened emotions of both your transgression and your hurt may be skewing your perception.
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