"The broadest, and I think the most important thing, in this question is involving changing fantasies, which we have talked about. Changing fantasies that are unwanted is really difficult."
"I think this wouldn't happen as much if I had other sex involving penises, but all my current partners are cis and I'm not interested in casual hookups or new partners to get the experience."
A cis lesbian experiences guilt and shame from unwanted sexual fantasies about a former male partner. Despite being happy in her current sex life, these fantasies are linked to a past relationship that was unhealthy. She feels conflicted about seeking new experiences with partners who have penises to diversify her fantasies, as it may contribute to fetishization. The column addresses the challenge of separating negative experiences from sexual fantasies and the difficulty of changing them.
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