"I Learned How To Orgasm From Sitting On My Husband's Face"

"On my third date with my then-boyfriend (he's now my husband), we had sex. And like so many times before, I decided I'd fake an orgasm. But unlike so many times before, it didn't feel right. I dated a lot of men in my 20s, and faking an orgasm just felt easier and safer than telling them I had never had an orgasm with a partner before."

"But while in the middle of having sex with my husband, I decided I liked him too much to fake it - and that I could trust him with this "secret" of mine. We were only on our third date, but we had known each other for months and had been talking for a while, so stopping him in the middle of sex to tell him "Hey, I've never had an orgasm before with someone" honestly didn't feel weird."

She is a mother of three in her 40s living in the Southeast. On a third date she stopped faking orgasms and told her partner she had never had an orgasm with someone. He responded gently, refusing promises but offering to try, which deepened trust and led her to realize she wanted a long-term relationship. Months of patient intimacy followed, but she continued to be unable to climax due to a mental block. She felt frustrated by oscillating between trying too hard and not trying enough, yet she treasured the intimacy even without orgasm. A later sexual request from her husband made her uncomfortable and she refused.

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