"Your girlfriend probably doesn't want to give you a blow job. Clearly, she knows that she could be sucking your dick, she knows that your own head is sometimes between her legs, and yet, no dice. She might be able to easily articulate her reasons, or it may be something more nebulous and hard to describe. You're not going to get close to an answer unless you ask."
"You don't even have to be delicate if you just pose it as a question. You don't have to dance around it or suggest. Just ask. You can say it nicely ('I'd really love it if you'd give me head') or you can be blunt ('Will you suck my dick?'), but be prepared to hear no."
"Some people just don't like to suck dick. That could never be me, but I don't have contempt for them. At the same time, though, I know that I couldn't be with them in any kind of monogamous setting. Is head something you could live without? If it turns out that giving oral is a hard no from your girlfriend, could you stay in that relationship?"
A three-month relationship involves great sex but lacks blow jobs despite the man hinting at his desire and performing oral sex on his girlfriend. The advice recommends direct, honest communication without dancing around the topic. Ask clearly and kindly, then listen to her response and reasons. Some people genuinely dislike performing oral sex, which is valid. The questioner must evaluate whether he can accept this boundary long-term or if it represents a fundamental incompatibility. Since sex is already satisfying without this act, he may have already adapted, but he should honestly assess whether resentment might build over time.
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