"You hurt his feelings. The impact of our actions matters. One big aspect of successful comedy, which you did not execute well, is reading the room-gauging whether the person or people who are involved in this joke will find it funny. Another important part is being prepared to take the heat, apologize, or do both when a joke lands really poorly. You're getting the heat now, and what you need to do is deliver a genuine apology for the hurt you caused your husband."
"While you're at it, add an apology for doubling down on the "it was just a joke" stance, which probably felt like a dismissal of his feelings (because it was). He'll accept your apology (or not) on his own timeline, so he may remain distant and continue to sleep on the couch for a bit. With patience and empathy, you'll get through this."
Giving a humorous but sensitive gift like a penis pump can wound a partner. Comedy requires gauging whether the recipient will find a joke funny, and the presenter must be willing to apologize if it lands poorly. Deliver a sincere apology for the hurt caused and for minimizing feelings by insisting 'it was just a joke.' Allow the partner to accept the apology on their own timeline; they may remain distant or sleep on the couch for a while. Include words or actions that specifically make the partner feel loved or appreciated. Exercise patience, empathy, and consistent loving behavior to rebuild trust.
Read at Slate Magazine
Unable to calculate read time
Collection
[
|
...
]