I Cheated on My Ex-Wife for Years. She Took Me Back. Unfortunately, the Reason I Cheated Remains.

"We had sex the following year, and it was pretty meh; of course, we were only teens. We never had a hot relationship where we would have sex multiple times per day or in crazy places; she just never cared for anything other than straight penis-in-vagina sex. I always felt I was missing something, and during that time, I had multiple affairs."

"I finally got busted eight years ago, and she asked for and received a divorce. Now, after eight years apart, we're seeing each other again, but the sex is the same. I read something recently that has me convinced that she is asexual and maybe even aromantic, as nothing I ever did seemed to turn her on or make her horny."

A man known his ex for 55 years and was married to her for 42, beginning their relationship as teenagers. Sexual intimacy was always limited to straightforward intercourse, and he felt sexually unfulfilled, leading to multiple affairs. He was discovered eight years ago, resulting in divorce; now they are seeing each other again but the sex remains unsatisfying. He suspects his ex may be asexual or aromantic because nothing he did seemed to arouse her. He is 72 and is considering whether to accept the situation or confront her in order to make her aware of his unmet needs and affairs. Confrontation aimed at shaming or making someone feel bad is likely to provoke an argument and is not recommended.

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