"So, what exactly does playing it cool mean? Well, some may tell you that it means acting as if you're not even interested in the person. This emerged from the belief that things become more desirable when they're seemingly scarce and harder to get. Think limited edition bags like Hermès Birkin ones, rarer stones like emeralds, memberships to exclusive clubs, bluefin tuna, vintage clothing (meaning clothing that you used to throw away), and antimatter. It's why celebrities and other popular folks seem that much more attractive, regardless of their true looks and personalities."
"Harder-to-get doesn't always translate to being more desirable, though. You're probably not angling to get some very rare disease or suffer some rare event like being attacked by a flock of emus. Those unusual full body hedgehog outfits aren't exactly flying off the shelves either. And chances are Bella Hadid and BTS aren't wondering why you aren't calling them."
Playing it cool should not mean showing no interest or acting entirely uninterested, because that can backfire by creating distance. Playing it cool means avoiding putting the other person on a pedestal and maintaining balanced, reciprocal interactions. It also means respecting other parts of life such as schedule, friends, and work. The aim is not to impress someone but to determine mutual compatibility. Treating availability as scarcity can sometimes increase desirability, yet making oneself excessively hard-to-get often hinders genuine connection and does not guarantee true value.
Read at Psychology Today
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