Here's How to Say 'No' to Swapping Seats on a Flight, According to a Conflict Expert

"This year, there's been an uptick in people being accused of being horrible or insensitive for refusing to swap seats on flights-usually, it's because they refused to swap seats with a parent, or some other family member. But as Travel + Leisure has already established, you're not wrong in keeping the seat you paid for. However, knowing you're legally and morally in the clear doesn't always make it easier to handle the pressure of someone asking you to swap."

"Before you ever get on the plane, think about how you have responded to getting asked to do things you don't want to do. "That type of awareness of what type of conflict style you have also kind of sets you up for success," Skinner explained. "You know what might trigger you or not, even before getting on a plane, or in any kind of conflict.""

An increase in accusations over refusing seat swaps has created pressure for travelers who legally and morally may keep the seats they purchased. Travelers benefit from identifying their typical conflict responses before boarding, recognizing whether they default to passivity or assertiveness. Awareness of personal triggers helps manage emotions and reduces impulsive concessions. Clear boundary-setting supports confident refusals. Strategies include preparing responses for refusals that escalate and knowing steps to take if someone persists or begins recording. Anticipation and practiced responses improve handling uncomfortable seat-swap encounters during flights.

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