"These aren't the most official numbers, but in the past, sources have reported that 40 percent of people dig through the medicine cabinets of their hosts. In one poll, half of Americans said they thought this kind of snooping was fine. Again, I'm not presenting peer-reviewed research here, but these are two data points that confirm my sense that your wife is not out of control compared to the rest of society. What she's doing is common, and anyone who invites her over"
"An important part of relationships is that you respect each other-and I don't mean treating each other with respect. I mean sincerely thinking, "I admire the way she makes her way through the world, and I think she makes good choices." That's missing here, as is another key element: "I lean toward taking her side and wanting her to be OK because I love her, even if I'd be more critical of the behavior from someone else.""
A spouse routinely rifling through hosts' bathroom cabinets constitutes an invasion of privacy but is surprisingly common. Reports indicate about 40 percent of people dig through the medicine cabinets of their hosts, and one poll found half of Americans consider that snooping acceptable. Many hosts likely anticipate this behavior, as the trope exists for a reason. The larger issue is a partner's impulse to inform friends or escalate the situation; calling managers or filing reports undermines relationship solidarity. Healthy relationships require respect, admiration, giving the benefit of the doubt, and leaning toward taking a partner's side.
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