Help! My Wife and Her Siblings Just Took Ancestry DNA Tests. All Hell's Broken Loose.
Briefly

Ancestry DNA tests can unveil unexpected familial relationships, as shown when Sandra discovered she was the product of an affair. Although her biological father is not the man who raised her, he maintains his parental bond with her. This revelation has strained family dynamics, leading to Sandra and her siblings cutting off contact with their mother. The challenge is to navigate these emotions while preserving healthy relationships, especially for Sandra's young daughter, who risks losing a relationship with her grandmother. A cooling-off period is suggested for Sandra to process her feelings gradually.
Give Sandra a cooling off period. Maybe a couple of months. This was a lot to absorb, and she's angry. I hope when she's had a chance to process everything, you can encourage her to think about it this way: "The reason you're so hurt by your mom's affair is that you value love, family, and authentic connections and what she did flies in the face of those things."
She has caused a crisis for the family and a lot of pain, but let's focus on the things we care about and refuse to allow her mistake to hurt our daughter, too.
If she's committed to the silent treatment, you can tell her that you will facilitate FaceTimes and visits.
Fortunately, the man who raised her, whom she thought was her biological father, said he will always consider Sandra to be his daughter.
Read at Slate Magazine
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