"But what you have the right to do is not always the action that will lead to the most happiness for you. In fact, if you insist upon escalating before exploring a gentler approach, you will often make things worse. So your wife isn't entirely full of it. Tense relationships with neighbors really do make a lot of people miserable, and it makes sense that she'd want to avoid pissing off people who live within shouting distance and are apparently pretty combative."
"I would report them for disturbing the peace, but my wife thinks it will somehow get back to them that it was me who turned them in and says she doesn't "want a war with the neighbors." Dear Quest for Quiet, The kids are scared, and I'm sick of having to overhear the woman screaming about how her husband can't satisfy her sexually on a daily basis."
The neighbors moved in two months ago and frequently have loud, profanity-filled arguments lasting hours. The children's fear and daily exposure to obscene content are causing distress in the household. Calling police is within homeowners' rights but likely won't produce arrests and may escalate tensions. A nonadversarial approach is recommended: establish a human connection at a calm moment before raising the problem. Try polite conversation, gentle requests to lower volume, and explore mediation or community resources before filing formal complaints. Document incidents and use law enforcement only as a last resort when safety or peace cannot be restored.
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