"Ask your roommate to have a household meeting. At the meeting, point out that you have noticed the many notes all over your home with your roommate's requests for work to be done. Push back. Explain that you do not appreciate the notes. You prefer having a direct conversation about the delineation of duties in your shared space. Acknowledge that the two of you have different standards,"
"My roommate has a habit of leaving extremely specific, passive-aggressive notes all over our apartment about cleaning, dishes and other household chores. Some of the notes feel petty, while others make me feel like I'm being criticized or watched, and it's starting to affect my peace of mind. I've tried picking up after myself, doing extra chores and even leaving polite replies or notes in return, but nothing seems to change their behavior."
A roommate leaves passive-aggressive, highly specific notes about cleaning, dishes, and household chores that create tension and cause the other housemate to feel criticized and watched. Attempts to compensate by picking up more and leaving polite replies have not changed the behavior. The advised strategy is to call a household meeting, state that the notes are unwelcome, outline a clear division of duties, acknowledge differing standards, firmly request that the notes stop, and establish weekly in-person check-ins. Separately, a family member fabricated serious health issues to gain sympathy and money, causing hurt and anger after discovery.
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