"We never dated, although I developed a strong attraction to him. He lied about his personal life and then ran off and got married without telling anyone he had been engaged the whole time, which left me hurt and heartbroken. Since then, I have dated other men, and we now live in different states. While I may have physically moved on, I haven't managed to do it emotionally."
"I don't think it is either one. I think you are in love with the fantasy of having a relationship with an idealized person upon whom you have projected values he didn't live by. For some people, this seems safer than the challenges of a relationship with a real person, flaws and all. What you are doing is wasting your time. If you really want to have someone in your life, consign this crush to the past and focus on the future."
"When he started traveling so often, I had a hard time adjusting to being everything for my kids and not having his support, and he began to resent me for getting so upset every time he left. We have had huge fights. Andy is drinking a lot, and I found out he had an affair. This has been a huge personality change for him. The man I married would never have had an affair or treated me the way he has."
A woman has carried feelings for a former minister for 35 years after he concealed an engagement and married, leaving her emotionally stuck despite other relationships. Persistent yearning for an unreachable person can signify attachment to an idealized fantasy rather than genuine love, which impedes moving forward. Idealizing someone can feel safer than confronting a real partner's flaws. In a separate situation, a long-term marriage deteriorated after increased work travel led to resentment, heavy drinking, infidelity, and a marked personality change. Counseling has begun as the couple assesses whether the relationship can be repaired.
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