Dear Abby: Is this woman stalking my fiance?

"During the last two weeks, she has been popping up at our home uninvited. Kylene knows Josh's work schedule and makes sure she sees him daily at the neighborhood bar around 4 in the afternoon. The other day, I went to the bar with Josh, and lo and behold, she was there waiting for him. I was pretty upset, because I don't see my Josh very much due to his tight work schedule."

"I think that rather than stalking Josh, Kylene is chasing him. How does Josh feel about it? Is he flattered? Is he attracted to her? Have you discussed the fact that her dropping by your home unannounced is inappropriate? I agree that your friend may be jealous of you, but the person who should put a stop to what has been going on is Josh, not you."

A fiancée reports that Kylene, a woman who hires her fiancé Josh for weekly yard work, has been appearing uninvited at their home and intentionally meeting him at a neighborhood bar. Kylene largely ignores the fiancée and focuses attention on Josh, prompting jealousy and concerns about pursuit. The recommended response is for Josh to acknowledge the behavior and set appropriate boundaries. Separately, a long-term employee says coworkers celebrate birthdays for everyone but her. The suggested response is to speak up, remind colleagues that she is part of the staff, and request equal inclusion.

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