Asking for a friend: My boyfriend doesn't want to tell his homophobic landlord he is gay so I can't come over or stay the night. Why won't he look for somewhere else to live?

"My boyfriend has just moved into a new houseshare. It's closer to his work so he loves it as he was spending a lot of time on the bus, but the issue is the landlord. He has made some homophobic comments to him, but he doesn't know that my boyfriend is gay. My boyfriend just changes the subject or laughs it off, but he says he does make him uncomfortable too."

"We used to love chilling on the sofa together and spending the night together. But now we can't do any of that at his house, and I live with my parents so it's not very often that he can come around. I feel so sad that we will barely see each other now, and don't really have a place to hang out or sleep together. I asked my boyfriend to look for a different house but he won't"

The boyfriend moved into a new houseshare closer to his work, which he likes because it reduces commute time. The houseshare landlord has made homophobic comments directed at the boyfriend, although the landlord does not know the boyfriend is gay. The boyfriend deflects the comments and avoids confrontation because he values the location, but finds the remarks uncomfortable. The partner can no longer visit the house, removing shared evenings and overnight stays. Living with parents limits alternatives. Requests to move to a different house have been refused, causing sadness, less contact, and fears that reduced time together will damage the relationship.

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