"I'm reminded of another Yiddish phrase a friend once told me which translates to money can buy everything except common sense. It really does take a lot of nerve to ask friends and loved ones to replace all their perfectly fine belongings but if their friends and loved ones will do it, there's technically no harm. No one is being forced to buy a gift."
"Not middle-aged adults with three past marriages and two homes between them. Yes, the inappropriateness has been discussed with them. When asked why, they say the things they have are older and, as they are starting out new together, they want things in their house to be new as well. No matter that, by registering, they effectively ask others to pay to replace what they already have. My perspective is that this is a blatant case of chutzpah, Yiddish for nerve or gall."
A couple in their mid-to-late 60s who each own single-family homes and have steady jobs registered for expensive household gifts for an upcoming wedding shower. The registry lists items more typical for newlyweds starting out, effectively asking friends to pay to replace usable belongings. The letter writer views this as audacious chutzpah and feels uncomfortable accepting or using newly purchased items. Advice emphasizes that no one is obligated to buy gifts and recommends declining if unwilling, while cautioning against allowing the registry to damage the friendship and suggesting a live-and-let-live approach.
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