"A group of seven elders men and women, ages 60 to 90 have gotten together once a week to play poker at my unit in our condo building for almost two years. As my husband and I are the only couple, we provide the food and set up the game with chips. My husband is disabled and an introvert, so this is the only way that entertaining works for us. We eat, play, tell jokes (sometimes adult jokes)."
"But your response isn't too tough. If you have a desire to close this loop, you can reach out to Martha one-on-one. Try saying something like, I wanted to talk to you about what happened at the poker game the other day. Could you tell me more about what was frustrating you? You may not feel compelled to change the way the group plays just to suit her. But what she says can give you more insight and with that insight you can decide o"
A group of seven older adults, ages 60 to 90, meet weekly for poker in a condo unit. The hosting couple provides food, setup, and social space; the husband is disabled and introverted, so hosting via game nights works for them. One guest, Martha, abruptly stopped joke-telling by yelling that 'enough is enough,' which ended the evening and created embarrassment. The hosts felt angry and considered excluding Martha from future games. The advice is that hosts should listen to guests' discomforts, seek clarification one-on-one, and weigh any explanation to decide whether to adjust the gathering or maintain current norms.
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