"If you've ever tried to "make time" for dating, don't bother. And while you're at it, you can forget about checking your texts and DMs regularly, too. According to a recent viral TikTok, it's way more attractive to be booked and busy. In a Jan. 15 post, @stevecole__ said, "I want to date someone who's too busy to date me." He went on to say, "If you have all day, every week, to date someone, you probably don't have enough going on in your life.""
"It felt like he was looking for the protagonist from Sabrina Carpenter's song "Busy Woman" in real life. Instead of only focusing on dating, @stevecole__ said he likes it when someone's focused on becoming the best version of themselves, whether that means growing a business, training, etc. "People are looking for their own happiness in someone else," he added. "I want someone who has their own happiness, and then I'm just an addition to that.""
A social-media trend elevates the appeal of being booked and busy as a desirable dating trait. Many people prefer partners who pursue personal growth through careers, businesses, training, hobbies, and strong friendships rather than centering life on dating. Limited availability and infrequent messaging can signal independence, self-sufficiency, and established happiness, making someone a complementary addition rather than a sole source of fulfillment. Busy schedules can relieve pressure to prioritize dating and validate postponing relationships while focusing on goals. The trend reflects a shift away from constant swiping and toward integrating dating into already full, engaged lives.
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