"In intimate relationships, both partners really see each other. They see each other as if they are watching them from the inside out. When a person says, "I see," during a conversation, they mean that they now have clarity. They see clearly. They understand the subject matter. That is what it means to be fully seen. You are seen with clarity. You are understood."
"In an intimate relationship, there is also an intentionality around hearing each other. This basically means that we are making sure that we really understand what the partner means when s/he/they speaks. That means three very important things: 1. I am not mind-reading. "I know what you're thinking" is the beginning of many arguments. As a therapist, I have been seated across from many couples where one or both of them are assuming that they know what the other"
Intimacy extends beyond sexual activity and can be attained within any primary relationship, including partners, friends, parents, children, or siblings. Sexual, emotional, spiritual, and physical experiences can be intimate, but intimacy encompasses more than sex. Intimacy requires being seen, heard, and known, which demands clarity, intentional listening, and mutual permission to be fully known. Seeing entails understanding a person from the inside out and recognizing particular or peculiar perspectives, even when someone feels invisible. Hearing entails deliberate effort to grasp what the partner means, avoiding mind-reading and assumptions that often trigger arguments.
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