I've Been Dating For Eight Years And Not One Man Has Come Prepared With A Condom. Not One.

"When I started dating after my divorce almost a decade ago, I had mixed feelings about getting out there again. One thing was certain, though: I was ready to get laid. I had been in a sexless marriage. There was neither passion nor chemistry, and I missed it terribly. It has also been twenty years since I'd slept with someone else, and for some reason I thought grown men would somehow be ... prepared."

"So, post-divorce while dating men ranging in ages from their thirties to fifties, you can imagine my surprise when not one of them offered protection or had even had protection on them. And when I did stop us from having sex one time, you'd think they'd show up the next time with something, right? Nope! You're sorely mistaken. The thing that keeps surprising me is that these grown men don't get it."

"Look, I'm sure it's not fun to cover your dick with latex when you're trying to have a pleasurable experience. But I'm a woman, a busy one at that, and I don't have time for sex-ed lessons. Also, I don't want to have sex with anyone so badly that I'm going to risk my health. And it's not up to me to make sure a man does his homework and goes to the damn store so we can both be protected."

"Believe me, I protect myself from getting pregnant and I go to the doctor every year to have an exam to make sure I'm healthy. I've done my part. That's enough. And if I had a penis, I'd cover it. But I don't and I'm not about to take chances with anyone's member even if I'm told over and over how good and clean it is. Or that it's been years since it's touch"

A divorced woman restarts dating after a long, sexless marriage and prioritizes sexual intimacy while insisting on protection. She expects adult partners to bring condoms but finds men in their thirties to fifties unprepared and unwilling to use them. She uses birth control but emphasizes that it does not prevent STIs and refuses to risk her health for sex. She refuses to provide sex education or to supply condoms for partners. She attends annual medical exams and considers her preventive efforts sufficient. She insists that men take responsibility for carrying and using protection and judges partners' character by their readiness.

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