"They fail because they don't take into consideration the child and family's unique characteristics. When I'm working with a family to solve their childrearing challenge(s), I guide parents through a process that helps us come up with sensitive, effective strategies that empower them to be the loving, connected mom/dad they want to be while setting the clear limits and boundaries that help their kids work through difficult situations and thrive."
"Establishing accurate expectations is critical because when they are too high, kids and parents are set up for failure; for example, expecting a 3-year-old to sit quietly for an hour in church; a 4-year-old to manage transitions without advance notice; or, a slow-to-warm 5-year-old to run happily into a new kindergarten class without hesitation."
"If the expectation is too low, we are enabling kids, not helping them develop the skills that build confidence and self-esteem. For example, letting a 4-year-old be in diapers during the day because they prefer them to using the toilet; or letting a 7-year-old quit a fortifying activity they typically enjoy because they can't tolerate not always being first or the best."
Prescriptive parenting approaches often leave parents feeling despairing and incompetent when they fail. These approaches fail because they do not consider the child's temperament and the family's unique characteristics. Effective parenting strategies begin by identifying the root cause of a behavior and devising responses that address underlying issues rather than only the surface behavior. Parents can be guided to create sensitive, effective strategies that maintain loving connection while setting clear limits and boundaries. Establish accurate, age- and situation-appropriate expectations to avoid setting children and parents up for failure or enabling dependence.
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