"The parent or adolescent needs to find a better alternative, and the adult needs to lead and show that way. After all,now is later, an adolescent is just an adult in training, and part of the parental responsibility is modeling and teaching habits of spoken communication that the young person will carry forward into significant relationships to come. Ensuring safe speech means managing unhappy emotional arousal that can betray them into saying what can inflict serious injury."
"To do so, parents must monitor their own emotional arousal. If they feel they are heating up with their teenager and are in danger of saying what they might later have cause to regret, they need to interrupt the communication and declare a short time-out. They do so to restore emotional sobriety, setting a time to re-engage conversation when able to do so in more measured terms."
Words spoken in haste can cause significant emotional harm, especially in close relationships such as parent and adolescent. Volatile pairings, like quick-tempered parents and hot-headed teenagers, escalate painful interactions when frustration, hurt, or anger dictate speech. Adults must model and teach safer communication habits because adolescents are adults in training. Safe speech requires monitoring and managing emotional arousal, interrupting heated exchanges with declared time-outs, and scheduling re-engagement when calmer. When hurtful words are spoken, sincere apology, listening to the injury, correcting misleading impressions, and making amends reinforce repair and model healthier future behavior.
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