"The idea that you shouldn't watch your partner birthing a baby is persistent in our culture but, as I think you know, totally stupid. Many millions of people have been present for their children's births and lived to tell the tale with their sex drives intact. Also: Unless your husband makes it a point to talk to the nurses and your doc to be in the mix and watch your baby crown, he'll be up with you, the main action out of sight. He's not going to accidentally see anything you don't want him to."
"Also: I'm sorry that you now know your parents haven't had sex in 31 years! People are incomprehensible, perhaps especially our own parents. Your mom has embraced a narrative that works for her. She can keep it, but that doesn't mean you have to adopt it, too. Congratulations on your pregnancy!"
A pregnancy question raises concerns about advice claiming that a husband watching childbirth will become sexually unable to have sex with his wife. The response rejects the claim as an urban legend, noting that many people have been present for their children’s births and maintained normal sex drives. It also explains that a partner who does not choose to interact with medical staff will likely not see anything beyond what is intended, since much of the process occurs out of sight. The response further addresses the mother’s personal narrative about her own parents’ long-term lack of sex, treating it as a story that may fit her experience but should not be adopted by others. The reply ends with congratulations on the pregnancy.
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