Parenting is an uncertain responsibility with no guaranteed method for success. Parents cannot rely on self-appointed experts for definitive answers and must develop their own best practices. Humility means avoiding arrogance about having all the answers and avoiding ambition that ties self-esteem to a child’s performance. Parenting involves three realities: parents know less than they want, control less than they want, and get things right less than they want. These realities intensify during adolescence, when children seek independence, freedom of action, individuality, and freedom of expression. Parents must continually learn from ignorance, adapt to developmental changes, and respond to new challenges as children grow.
"Parenting is such a presumptuous occupation. I mean, who really knows how this job is supposed to be accomplished? Trust to self-appointed "experts"? I don't think so. The most they can do is to be thought-provoking. In the end, every parent with every child has to create their own best practices."
"Personally, I believe in parenting with humility-with an absence of arrogance (prizing one's rightness and wisdom too much: "I know all the answers!") and of ambition (depending self-esteem on the child's performance too much: "I expect my child to make me proud!")"
"Humility acknowledges three hard facts of parenting life: Parents don't "know" as much as they'd like. Parents don't "control" as much as they'd like. Parents don't get it "right" as much as they'd like."
"Every parent parents behind this growth curve and so is continually scrambling to keep up and catch up. They figure out the girl or boy at one age only to be surprised and challenged by the next. Parenting is a process of constant learning to create adequate knowing."
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