A parenting advice response addresses a man who may have fathered a child with a former hookup. The man fears that revealing the possibility of paternity will derail trust with his wife, who is rebuilding their relationship and is in counseling. The guidance criticizes causing the wife needless worry by telling her to await DNA results. It frames disclosure as potentially thoughtless if it increases anxiety without immediate necessity. The recommendation is to obtain the DNA test results first, then come clean only if the results indicate the child is his. The advice aims to prevent turning home life into a public spectacle and to avoid making the wife suffer twice.
"Causing your wife some pointless worry is kind of cruel. Considering the fragile state of your recoupling, do you think burdening her with the anxiety of awaiting the results of your DNA test will forge a new bond? I've only known you for one paragraph, but I don't think so."
"If there are trust issues, this might be considered another thoughtless tactic that ultimately harms her for no other reason than to clear your conscience. My suggestion: Find out the results of the DNA test, then come clean if you need to. Don't make your wife suffer twice here."
"There's no reason to turn your homelife into a Maury Povich episode just yet."
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