"I am the oldest daughter of three siblings. I'm three years older than my brother and 12 years older than my sister. We have a great, tight-knit family, and my parents have always showered us with love. However, my issue is that my parents have changed their parenting style, and my younger sister is having a very different experience from the one I had, even though my dad still works the same job as he did 12 years ago, and my mom still stays home."
"I had to work and take out loans to attend college and cover my lifestyle needs after graduating from high school. However, I found out over the holidays that my sister, who graduates this spring, will attend college entirely on my parents' dime. She has never had to work a job because they worry it will distract her from her grades. I barely concealed my anger when I found out, but the more I think about it, the angrier I get."
An oldest daughter feels anger because parents now fund her much-younger sister's entire college education while the daughter had to work and take loans. The younger sister never held a job because parents feared work would distract from grades. The daughter fears future explosive conflict if she does not address the imbalance now. The daughter likes her current life and does not want to start a fight, but resentment persists. Address feelings honestly, clarify personal goals, and choose a measured, purposeful conversation with parents to prevent future blowups and seek understanding or adjusted expectations.
Read at Business Insider
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