"His son spends most school nights at his mom's house because his school is across the street and spends every other weekend at his dad's. Last weekend, I had my first sleepover at my boyfriend's place while his son was there. The next morning, we were having coffee when his son came downstairs to get breakfast. We're talking about me moving in with my boyfriend in a few months, but after what happened, I'm not so sure."
"Honestly, what would you even ask his dad to say to the kid? "Remember, son, no erections when [your name] is on the premises"? Look, I'm not saying you will or should have to see it all the time. But your boyfriend's son is 15, and this is really very normal. It's a bit much to call it your "problem to deal with" when he's the one experiencing all the unpredictable hormonal surges. (Not that he probably minds, most of the time.)"
A woman staying overnight at her boyfriend's house saw his 15-year-old son come downstairs with an erection and felt uncomfortable about moving in. The occurrence is described as an ordinary result of adolescent hormonal changes, and no intervention is necessary. Directly addressing the teen about his erection would be awkward and unnecessary. Responsibility for this unpredictability rests with the adolescent's development, not with the visiting adult. Occasional exposure to such normal bodily reactions may happen when cohabiting with a teenager, and adults should anticipate and accept some uncomfortable but non-actionable moments.
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