"I have always been neutral to negative about the idea of having kids. I don't feel called to it. I like my freedom. But now, at 27, I am DEEPLY in love with a man who does want kids, though not for a long time yet. We've talked about it; he knows how I feel. I can't emphasize enough how much of a walking green flag this man is. I would do anything for him."
"If you reach the point-in a year or a few-at which he very much wants to have a child with you, and you are still feeling neutral to negative about the prospect, then I think that going ahead and giving him "the gift of being a father" isn't a great idea. People who don't want kids shouldn't have them."
Getting pregnant now would be madness for someone who is neutral to negative about being a parent. The partner wants children but not for a long time and already knows how you feel. Many people change their minds about parenthood in their late twenties and early thirties. The prudent approach is to let the relationship evolve and revisit the question over time. If the partner later strongly wants children and you still feel neutral or negative, giving him fatherhood at your expense is not a good idea. People who do not want children should not have them.
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