"Perfectionism has only one perspective-self-importance. Everything related to one, the good, bad, and apparently neutral, feels as though it matters immensely, part of some bigger plan for them, regardless of who lays it out. This creates pressure to get everything right, to avoid any sort of mistake, big or small. The perfectionist feels special; therefore, by extension, their chosen profession or endeavors feel special, and so do their relationships."
"When everything you do matters, by extension, a mistake, or at least your perception of it, is amplified. In a recent post on mistakes, I mentioned an example from the reality series "WWE Unreal," where professional wrestler Becky Lynch comforted her staged competitor, Lyra Valkyria, after their match at a major event, which was full of Lyra's mistakes. While the match itself wasn't good, their exchange was one of the best moments in the business's history."
Perfectionism stems from an inflated sense of self-importance that makes successes and failures feel disproportionately consequential. That mindset pressures individuals to avoid any error and divides experience into extremes of what matters and what does not. Wanting mistakes to matter often reflects a deeper desire to matter personally. Learning to accept mistakes requires embracing a larger view of values and one’s place in the world. Practical examples show that offering compassion to others can help quiet inner critics and produce a wider perspective that prevents scapegoating and reduces the need for flawless performance.
Read at Psychology Today
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