The article discusses how conflicts are not only about the opposing person but also about our own perceptions and emotions. It highlights how people often argue internally with imagined scenarios and assumptions, leading to greater distress. Furthermore, it addresses the concept of 'enemy images,' where negative projections about the other side can intensify conflict and lead to dehumanization. The piece emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and encourages individuals to observe conflicts without adding unnecessary negativity, offering a path toward resolution and empowerment.
We might not just be up against a real person or situation. We might be up against our own imaginations. We might be doing much of the work to feel bad by ourselves.
When we’re in conflicts, we might not just be arguing with another person, but with our assumptions and expectations about them.
Many of us have felt this way at some point or other... the other side might cloak its actions in reasons, but actually 'those people' are just harming us because they’re evil.
Exaggerated ‘enemy images’ distort reality, making conflicts harder to address. Observing what's happening without adding negativity that isn't there can be empowering.
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