"I'll admit something: there have been times when I've questioned whether being kind is worth it. Like when you help someone move apartments and they ghost you a month later. Or when you give your all at work only to be passed over for a promotion. But here's what I've learned after years of studying Buddhism and human psychology: genuine kindness isn't about what you get back. It's about who you are at your core."
"You know that person who reminds everyone about that one favor they did three years ago? Yeah, that's not you. Despite being let down or taken advantage of in the past, you still offer help when someone needs it. You don't maintain a mental spreadsheet of who owes you what. This doesn't make you naive. It makes you emotionally mature. I remember working at a warehouse in Melbourne, shifting TVs all day. One of my coworkers constantly needed rides home, and I gave them freely."
Life tests kindness. Genuine kindness isn't about what you get back; it's about core character. Choosing compassion despite being hurt indicates true kindness. Kind people help others without keeping score and refuse to maintain mental spreadsheets of favors. Examples include helping someone move who later ghosts you, giving all at work yet being passed over for promotion, or driving coworkers who fail to reciprocate. Forgiveness is offered even when apologies never arrive, for one's own peace. Years of studying Buddhism and psychology support practicing compassion as an identity rather than a transactional strategy. Keeping score turns kindness into a transaction, and transactional relationships are exhausting.
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