Women Are Revealing The Secrets They Only Learned About Their Husband After Saying "I Do"

"Sometimes a person with Asperger's treats you as his special interest while you're dating, and when you marry (or after some time dating), he reverts to his natural state, which can be wanting to spend most of his time alone, not wanting to talk (or being able to hold up his end of a conversation), and absorbed in other studies/activities, and interests (mine games and does research on the internet.)"

"We're in couples counseling, and I learned in our first session that if I ask him how his day was, he panics, because he doesn't know what to say. He is finally getting on top of his depression with medical help, and was also diagnosed with ADD as well. He's a very nice guy, and he struggles with a lot. I did a lot of crying this year after his diagnosis, because I re-lived a lot of frustration, hurt, confusion, loneliness, and anger"

The husband of almost thirty years received a diagnosis of autism level one (Asperger's). Prior behavior included intense interest during dating that later shifted to a natural state of withdrawal, prolonged alone time, limited conversational engagement, and absorption in games and internet research. Couples counseling revealed that asking about his day triggers panic because he cannot formulate an answer. He also has depression being treated medically and a diagnosis of ADD. The spouse experienced significant grief, revisiting decades of frustration, loneliness, and anger, and questioned the marriage. Counseling can teach skills, but many traits reflect neurological wiring and require ongoing accommodations.

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