"On the one hand, socially prescribed perfectionism, the sense that important others in your life demand and expect perfection from you in meaningful areas, may be easier to treat because the individual doesn't completely believe they should have to be perfect. On the other hand, the sheer terror of social rejection, which may cause one to feel out of control, can be even more debilitating than letting oneself down."
"People pleasers tend to think in black and white, perceiving their work, for example, in all-or-nothing terms, indicated with statements like, "You either do the job right or not at all." So, while they may feel as though they didn't agree to complete some particular task, they may overgeneralize and believe that doing it is part of some bigger picture. At work, they may believe that overworking means being a good employee."
Socially prescribed perfectionism involves internalizing others' expectations and fearing social rejection, producing a persistent inner-outer tension that feels unresolvable. People pleasers often engage in dysfunctional thinking styles such as black-and-white thinking and overgeneralization, equating overwork and boundary violations with being a good person. Some part of the individual resists external pressure, yet fear of rejection sustains compliance and overextension. Personalizing responsibilities can create a sense of control and pride, while people pleasing can obscure recognition of exploitation. Challenging people-pleasing requires clarifying personal values and confronting underlying fears.
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