There's More Than One Way to Get Sober

"For many people, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is synonymous with sobriety from substances. The 12-step model has helped millions around the world, and I have deep respect for the freedom it has given so many-including friends, clients, and people I love. But 12-steps isn't the only way. And it wasn't my way. I didn't get sober through AA. My path looked different,"

"But as a therapist, I've learned that recovery has to meet people where they are. When someone feels forced into a single path, they often pull away from the very help they're seeking. I may challenge them or invite another perspective, but I want to honor their autonomy, timing, and what works for them. Whether it's through the 12-steps or something else, healing from the guilt and shame many of us carry is an essential part of any path to sobriety."

Alcoholics Anonymous and the 12-step model have helped millions and provide freedom for many. Alternative paths to sobriety exist and can be equally valid. Personal experience includes not using AA and initially hesitating to discuss that. Recovery should meet people where they are; feeling forced into one path can push people away from help. Clinicians should honor autonomy, timing, and what works for individuals, sometimes challenging or offering other perspectives. Healing guilt and shame is essential to sobriety. Spiritual connection or a relationship with God, however defined, can be foundational, though not everyone connects to spiritual frameworks. A bereavement example shows grief triggering increased drinking.

Read at Psychology Today