"Before the pandemic, Zakiya Gibbons was everywhere, all the time. Whenever I saw her, she was on her way to another engagement she'd double stacked that day. She's a people person. A textbook extrovert. But she lived alone during the pandemic, and like a lot of people, all that alone time made her a little neurotic. Suddenly, going on dates started to feel draining, and she experienced a social anxiety she didn't recognize in herself."
"Now she's ready to get back out there, but she's found herself in a new predicament: she keeps finding herself on dates with men because they are what she calls a "low-hanging fruit." As a bisexual woman, she's way more comfortable slipping into the gender roles expected from a hetero pairing, but there's a part of her that doesn't quite recognize herself in these relationships, either. She wants to do more queer dating, but she feels rusty, and this newfound social anxiety makes it feel"
"On the latest episode of Try Hard, Zakiya attempts to work through the imposter syndrome she's having about presenting as "queer enough." After a talk with Myisha Battle of How's Your Sex Life Zakiya decides its time to try queer speed dating in Brooklyn! A transcript of the episode can be found here. You can listen to Try Hard wherever you get your podcasts: RSS here, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify (if you must)."
Before the pandemic, Zakiya Gibbons was highly social and often double-booked with engagements. She lived alone during the pandemic, and extended isolation made her more anxious and neurotic. Dating became draining and unfamiliar social anxiety emerged, prompting her to quit dating apps about a year ago and spend time alone. Returning to dating, she often gravitates toward men as "low-hanging fruit" and comfortably adopts heteronormative gender roles, but these relationships feel inauthentic. As a bisexual woman she wants more queer dating but feels rusty and experiences impostor syndrome about presenting as "queer enough." After talking with Myisha Battle she decides to try queer speed dating in Brooklyn.
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