Parenting
fromPsychology Today
12 hours agoThe Dangers of Winning at All Costs for Youth Athletes
Sport for young athletes should prioritize fun over pressure, allowing for competition without compromising enjoyment and personal development.
#youth-etiquette
#youth-etiquette
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#communication #parenting #friendship #relationships #social-media #psychology #anxiety #child-development
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours agoThe people who immediately tidy a room when they enter someone else's house aren't being helpful. They learned somewhere along the way that earning their place was the price of being allowed to stay in it - Silicon Canals
Conditional love in childhood leads to anxious attachment and compulsive helpfulness in adulthood.
#masculinity
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals
Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Social justice
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
2 days agoHow Unity May Tear Us Apart | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Polarization is a top concern in the U.S., and the concept of unity varies significantly among people, potentially leading to harmful interpretations.
#social-media
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who use social media but never post about themselves have separated the value of staying informed from the cost of participating in the performance - and that quiet withdrawal isn't disinterest or insecurity, it's one of the most deliberate digital choices a person can make in an era that treats visibility as currency - Silicon Canals
Many social media users prefer to observe rather than participate, valuing privacy and learning over broadcasting their thoughts.
#community-service
Education
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
1 month agoStudents Build Belonging Through Service
Neumann University mobilized nearly 1,000 students, alumni, and faculty to complete 60,000 volunteer hours during its 60th anniversary, addressing community needs while strengthening institutional belonging.
Education
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
1 month agoStudents Build Belonging Through Service
Neumann University mobilized nearly 1,000 students, alumni, and faculty to complete 60,000 volunteer hours during its 60th anniversary, addressing community needs while strengthening institutional belonging.
Non-profit organizations
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
4 days agoFaster Than Authoritarianism: Rapid Response as a Frontline Strategy for Democracy Defense | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Rapid response is essential for effective movement building and defending democracy against authoritarian strategies.
#friendship
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoHow to Make Friends as an Adult
Making friends as an adult requires creativity and intentionality to overcome loneliness and improve well-being.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says people who are very selective with friends aren't lacking in social skills - they're often carrying a level of social awareness so sharp that casual conversation feels hollow the moment it starts, and the energy it takes to pretend otherwise is a cost they've simply stopped being willing to pay - Silicon Canals
Selectivity in friendships reflects a deeper social awareness and the need for genuine connections rather than superficial interactions.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoRelationships
There's a specific kind of person who always asks how you're doing but somehow never gets asked back, and it isn't because they hide it well. It's that they've become so associated with being the checker-inner that unprompted care has started to feel like something that happens to other people - Silicon Canals
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoRelationships
There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says people who are very selective with friends aren't lacking in social skills - they're often carrying a level of social awareness so sharp that casual conversation feels hollow the moment it starts, and the energy it takes to pretend otherwise is a cost they've simply stopped being willing to pay - Silicon Canals
Selectivity in friendships reflects a deeper social awareness and the need for genuine connections rather than superficial interactions.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a specific kind of person who always asks how you're doing but somehow never gets asked back, and it isn't because they hide it well. It's that they've become so associated with being the checker-inner that unprompted care has started to feel like something that happens to other people - Silicon Canals
Friendships often rely on one person to check in, creating an imbalance in emotional responsibility.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals
Friendships that truly support you in later life often form in adulthood, not childhood, and thrive in shared silence and presence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the classiest people don't deal with rudeness by firing back or rising above it, they do something quieter, they let the silence sit for one extra beat, answer the actual question underneath, and leave the room without ever making the rude person the main character of the story - Silicon Canals
Classy responses to rudeness involve silence, addressing underlying issues, and avoiding making the rude person the focus.
fromPsychology Today
1 week agoKnowing Themselves Helps LGBTQ+ Teens Thrive
Research indicates that LGBTQ+ teens entering high school experience significantly higher anxiety symptoms compared to their cisgender heterosexual peers, highlighting the unique challenges they face during this transition.
LGBT
Social justice
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
5 days agoOlder Adults and Volunteerism: A Vital Social Justice Issue | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Volunteers, especially seniors, play a crucial role in nonprofit impact and should be viewed as agents of change rather than burdens on resources.
#parenting
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe people who grew up being described as the easy child are often the ones who, later in life, are quietly realizing they were never actually easy - they were just unseen - Silicon Canals
The label of 'easy child' often masks deeper issues of unmet needs and emotional neglect.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoChildren who grew up in the 1960s and 70s without structured schedules didn't just learn independence - they built an internal compass that modern children, supervised into adolescence, are rarely given the chance to develop - Silicon Canals
Children today have less freedom and fewer opportunities to solve problems independently compared to previous generations.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
4 days agoWould You Leave Your 15-Year-Old Home Alone All Weekend?
Determining when to leave a teenager home alone for an extended period can be challenging for parents.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe people who grew up being described as the easy child are often the ones who, later in life, are quietly realizing they were never actually easy - they were just unseen - Silicon Canals
The label of 'easy child' often masks deeper issues of unmet needs and emotional neglect.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoChildren who grew up in the 1960s and 70s without structured schedules didn't just learn independence - they built an internal compass that modern children, supervised into adolescence, are rarely given the chance to develop - Silicon Canals
Children today have less freedom and fewer opportunities to solve problems independently compared to previous generations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe people who can't accept help without immediately offering something in return aren't generous. They're running an internal ledger that was installed the first time receiving something came with strings, and the ledger has never once gone quiet - Silicon Canals
Reciprocity can mask a debt-avoidance reflex, where individuals feel compelled to repay kindness immediately due to anxiety rather than genuine generosity.
London politics
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks agoYoung people want to come together': experts respond to mass teen meet-ups in Clapham
Teenagers organized chaotic gatherings in London via social media, leading to disorder and arrests, prompting political outrage and calls for action against youth behavior.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago5 things people who grew up lower middle class quietly do as adults that look strange until you understand the logic behind them - Silicon Canals
Lower middle class upbringing shapes adults' financial behaviors and anxieties, leading to habits like maintaining hidden emergency accounts.
#child-development
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals
Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals
Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals
Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals
Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
#communication
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoNot everyone who answers texts slowly is bad at communication. Some of them are just people who learned that responding quickly taught others to expect a level of availability they could no longer sustain without resentment. - Silicon Canals
Slow texters often prioritize boundaries over immediate responses, having learned that quick replies create expectations of constant availability.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoNobody tells you that expecting instant replies is a relatively new social norm - and that an entire generation learned to communicate in ways that never required it - Silicon Canals
Instant communication has created pressure that undermines meaningful relationships, which thrived in a slower-paced era of correspondence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who stop trying to be liked are often accused of having an attitude - by the people who most benefited from them having none - Silicon Canals
Setting boundaries often leads to others perceiving you as difficult or having an attitude problem, despite unchanged competence.
Mental health
fromCornell Chronicle
1 month agoSelf-esteem, openness to LGBTQ peers helps all high schoolers | Cornell Chronicle
Inclusive high school environments reduce anxiety for LGBTQ students and benefit all peers, while strong self-esteem protects LGBTQ students from heightened ninth-grade anxiety.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology suggests people who push their chair back in when they leave a table aren't being polite - they're demonstrating a character that behaves the same way whether or not anyone important is watching, and that consistency, across every small unwitnessed moment, is the only version of character that has ever actually meant anything - Silicon Canals
Small actions reflect deeper character and consistency, revealing true identity when no one is watching.
fromUnHerd
2 months agoThe teenage-boy proving ground
The teenaged boy was the victim of what local news sources called a "social-media challenge" or "TikTok stunt" gone awry. He'd been with a group of friends who were filming the exploit, and who fled the scene without calling for help for fear of getting arrested - though, naturally, they also immediately posted video of the accident to social media.
New York City
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThe art of being the oldest person in the room: 7 habits of people over 60 who never feel invisible in younger company - Silicon Canals
The people who never feel invisible? They're the ones asking questions. My buddy Frank is seventy-one. When his grandson talks about some video game, Frank doesn't say 'When I was your age, we played outside.' He asks, 'What do you like about it? How does it work?' And he actually listens to the answer.
Miscellaneous
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoI'm Training the New, Young Guy at Work. Uh, Who's Going to Tell Him This Isn't How We Behave in an Office?
Recently, I was tasked with helping to train a new hire: a much younger guy who has a superior ranking to me. He picks up things quickly. But the issue is that he overshares personal information and asks too many personal questions. He has been having romantic issues, which he talked about with another person and me. One day, he even had an emotional breakdown (crying and yelling) at work, which required soothing and calming him down.
Careers
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
1 month agoI've raised my teen to be independent since kindergarten. Now she's teaching me how to be self-reliant with tech.
Raising children with independence and autonomy from an early age develops self-reliance, problem-solving skills, and confidence to handle adult responsibilities without panic.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoIf you still say "excuse me" when no one's even in your way, you were raised with these 7 rules most people under 40 never learned - Silicon Canals
Childhood etiquette teaches unspoken rules—courtesy, reciprocity, respect, and contribution—that shape everyday behavior and sustain communal trust in modern social life.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoWe're Giving Our Son Something Most of His Friends Could Never Dream of Having. Uh, Now He Wants to Know Why.
Explain financial advantage as privilege, name other forms (race, ability, gender), and have simple, age-appropriate conversations to foster understanding and empathy.
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