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fromThe Atlantic
1 day ago

How Some People Became So Averse to Hype

Anna Holmes defines 'hype aversion' as a reflex against being told what to like, suggesting that popularity can create pressure rather than signal quality. This feeling can lead to a deliberate choice to resist mainstream culture.
Media industry
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
10 hours ago

Why Today's Young Men Seem Trapped

Young men face a crisis of identity, struggling with anxiety, depression, and confusion about manhood due to societal pressures and lack of personal power.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
10 hours ago

I Have the Holy Trinity of Sex Problems. I Know What Would Solve Them, but I'm Too Scared to Try.

Exploring sexual orientation can involve complex feelings and societal pressures, especially regarding bisexuality and the fear of judgment.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
9 hours ago

Why is conversion therapy so harmful? It's all about how young people form their identities. - LGBTQ Nation

Conversion therapy significantly harms LGBTQ+ youth, increasing suicidality and emotional distress during their critical identity-forming years.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals

Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
Women in technology
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 day ago

A Fox host says many people' think women shouldn't be president. Thank goodness we've got a man in charge | Arwa Mahdawi

Jesse Watters makes provocative statements about women and leadership, reflecting a controversial perspective on gender roles in politics.
Design
fromDesign Milk
2 days ago

OUTSIDERS Investigates the Space Between Society and Solitude

Modern design challenges conventional public seating to enhance social interaction and presence in urban spaces.
History
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Empire of Sticky Labels

The Holy Roman Empire's label persisted long after its actual power and legitimacy eroded, illustrating the slow evolution of reputation.
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
2 days ago

Why the manosphere has an antisemitism problem

Antisemitism is prevalent in the manosphere, with influencers promoting harmful stereotypes and conspiracy theories about Jews.
fromEurekAlert!
3 days ago
Online Community Development

Why some people change only when enough others do

Understanding individual thresholds for change and social networks can help overcome resistance to adopting new behaviors like climate change solutions.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

8 status symbols that used to mean success but now just signal insecurity - Silicon Canals

Status symbols have shifted from markers of success to indicators of insecurity and financial struggle.
Social justice
fromwww.theguardian.com
5 days ago

Is calling a woman auntie' ageist harassment or a mark of respect? It's a trickier question than you think | Lola Okolosie

Respecting how individuals wish to be addressed is essential, as demonstrated by the tribunal ruling in favor of Ilda Esteves against Charles Oppong.
Parenting
fromIndependent
4 days ago

My 10-year-old son watched porn at a friend's house - but I have no idea how to talk to him about it

Reactions to a child's discovery of pornography can influence their willingness to communicate openly.
Right-wing politics
fromWIRED
5 days ago

The Promise of 'Woke 2' Is Fueling a Leftist Fever Dream

Donald Trump's 2024 victory was seen as a rejection of 'woke' ideology, leading to a culture of offensive speech without fear of consequences.
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
5 days ago

Republicans slammed for "cruel" one-word response to the Trans Day of Visibility - LGBTQ Nation

Protesters rallied in Sioux Falls for transgender rights against anti-trans bills, while Republicans faced backlash for their dismissive response to Transgender Day of Visibility.
Film
fromLGBTQ Nation
5 days ago

23 films that expose the reality of conversion therapy - LGBTQ Nation

Conversion therapy is inhumane, ineffective, and continues to have lasting emotional and cultural effects on individuals and society.
World news
fromThe Nation
6 days ago

What Are Your Obligations When Your Country Is the Villain?

The U.S. executed a devastating missile strike on a school in Iran, killing many children and raising moral questions about its actions.
Fashion & style
fromHer Campus
6 days ago

Consumerism, Conformity, & The Death Of Originality

Social media marketing influences consumer behavior, leading to conformity and potential loss of individuality in personal style.
#parenthood
Books
fromThe Atlantic
6 days ago

How Long Can You Live Your Ideals?

Pat Calhoun chooses parenthood over radicalism, paralleling Elsa Haddish's struggle between her militant past and raising her daughter safely.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours ago

People who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals

Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
Women in technology
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Study Finds Men Who Want #TradWives Also Have High Levels Of "Hostile Sexism"

The #tradwife movement is supported by men with hostile sexism, who view women negatively and expect traditional homemaking roles.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

This Theory Explains Why Neurodivergents Are Burning Out

Neurodivergent individuals experience higher burnout rates, necessitating accommodations to balance job demands and resources.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

Is "gender exploratory therapy" just conversion therapy with a new name? - LGBTQ Nation

Gender exploratory therapy is a controversial approach that some view as pathologizing non-binary identities while others see it as a cautious exploration of gender identity.
#hypocrisy
Right-wing politics
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days ago

A right-winger tried to own a No Kings protestor with gotcha questions. She skewered him instead. - LGBTQ Nation

A woman's powerful responses at a protest left a right-wing interviewer speechless, earning her widespread praise online.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The most painful version of not belonging isn't being rejected by strangers. It's sitting at your own family's dinner table, surrounded by people who share your last name, and feeling like you're watching the evening through glass. - Silicon Canals

Belonging can exist alongside profound loneliness, where one feels unseen even in the presence of family and friends.
Social justice
fromwww.amny.com
1 week ago

Op-Ed | The danger of normalizing hate | amNewYork

Anti-Muslim hate has surged during Ramadan, impacting community spirituality and highlighting the normalization of intolerance in society.
Women in technology
fromFast Company
2 days ago

The cosmetic surgery industry is mainly built for women. So why is it run by men?

Leadership in the aesthetics industry is predominantly male, despite women being the primary consumers and decision-makers.
fromQueerty
3 days ago

"There's no way I could ever forget the fake boobs": Bryon Noem's alleged femdom speaks out - Queerty

Lydia Love stated, 'He wanted to be the star of the show and really show off. I would hype him up.' This highlights Noem's desire for attention and validation during their interactions.
LGBT
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals

Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
Fashion & style
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

My petty gripe: Using pink to denote HARK, THIS BE A WOMAN' is beyond the power of my lady brain to comprehend

The prevalence of pink in women's motorcycle gear and workwear is frustrating and limiting for those seeking classic styles.
Right-wing politics
fromwww.mediaite.com
5 days ago

What the F*ck': The New York Times Claims J-Pilled' Means Skeptical of Israel

The term 'J-pilled' is described as far-right slang for skepticism of Israeli influence, raising concerns about its implications and usage.
Scala
fromMedium
3 weeks ago

Rage Against the (Plurality of) Effect Systems

Open-source effect systems provide genuine benefits for safe parallel programming but create systemic problems through their pervasive, infectious nature that spreads throughout entire codebases.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The people who say 'I'm fine with whatever you want to do' in every social situation aren't easygoing. They've simply never been in an environment where stating a preference didn't start a negotiation they couldn't afford to lose. - Silicon Canals

People who appear easygoing may actually be practicing conflict avoidance as a survival strategy learned from past experiences.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Ideas We Aren't Ready to Understand-Yet

Collect ideas you don't understand but sense are important, as they trigger deeper cognitive processing and eventual insight through incubation.
National Basketball Association
fromDefector
3 weeks ago

There's Always A Way To Deny The Undeniable | Defector

Bam Adebayo scored 83 points in a game against the Washington Wizards, setting a record with 43 free throws, though future skepticism may emerge due to limited broadcast availability and the implausibility of the performance.
fromThe Atlantic
1 week ago

Homophobia Is Back. It's Different Now.

LaBeouf hasn't anchored a box-office hit in more than a decade, and little of his 2020s art-house work has drawn buzz. The most notable thing he's starred in lately was a clip of him on a podcaster's couch, hunched and diminished, talking about his fear of gay people.
LGBT
Psychology
fromCornell Chronicle
4 days ago

Rudeness may be rewarded - as a response to rudeness | Cornell Chronicle

Retaliatory incivility may be viewed more leniently than instigated incivility, suggesting context matters in social responses.
#mental-health
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago
Mental health

We All Belong: A Perspective on People on the Outskirts

People with psychosis and mental health conditions often feel a profound sense of not belonging in society and psychiatric settings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

We All Belong: A Perspective on People on the Outskirts

People with psychosis and mental health conditions often feel a profound sense of not belonging in society and psychiatric settings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Miscellaneous
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

I started paying attention to who in my office apologizes before asking a question and the pattern maps almost perfectly onto who was raised in a household where curiosity was treated as disobedience. - Silicon Canals

People who grew up in households where questioning authority was discouraged tend to apologize before asking questions in professional settings, while those without this background ask directly.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

The Negativity Bias Impacts Everything in Our Lives

Humans are evolutionarily predisposed to focus on negativity for survival, but this can lead to harmful cognitive patterns.
Media industry
fromPadailypost
3 weeks ago

Author finds outrage is profitable

Social media algorithms are deliberately designed to amplify outrage because anger drives engagement, clicks, and shares, particularly intensifying before elections when candidates use fear to motivate voters.
Psychology
fromFast Company
5 days ago

Stop trying to 'educate' people into changing. Science proves it doesn't work

False assumptions hinder change; simply providing information does not guarantee behavior change.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Why Some Scientific Debates Never End

Complex questions involving values cannot be definitively settled by evidence alone, as different priorities lead experts to emphasize different findings from the same data.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

The last generation that could be unreachable for an entire Saturday without someone assuming something was wrong didn't have better boundaries - they lived in a world where solitude was a default, not something you had to schedule, defend, and explain - Silicon Canals

Past generations weren't better at disconnecting; they lived in a world where constant availability was technically impossible, not a choice requiring justification.
Right-wing politics
fromDefector
3 weeks ago

A List Of Better Ways To Experience The Frisson Of Transgression Than Becoming A Fascist | Defector

A woman attracted to right-wing ideology for its transgressive appeal discovers the movement actually seeks to restrict rights from people like her, prompting her to seek a new ideological home.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who command the most respect in a room aren't the loudest or most confident - they're the ones who can disagree without making others feel stupid for having believed something different - Silicon Canals

Respectful disagreement fosters genuine influence and encourages open dialogue.
Media industry
fromQueerty
4 weeks ago

A surprising thing happens when conservatives are forced to watch real news, study finds - Queerty

A study found that Fox News viewers exposed to CNN for one month developed sharper critical thinking skills and became less susceptible to conspiracy theories and right-wing propaganda.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Why We Don't Change-Even When We Know What's Wrong

Insight alone is insufficient for change; real experiences are necessary to challenge ingrained beliefs and expectations.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

The Secret to Ending All Wars Is the Truth We Already Know

All major wisdom traditions independently teach the same core truth: love your neighbor as yourself, making this the fundamental target of human existence and the antidote to war.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

The Fear of Being Canceled Activates an Ancient Alarm

Therapists are observing a new anxiety disorder characterized by a fear of public shaming and ostracism, termed akyronophobia.
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

The Good Deaths of People Who Never Marry

People who had never married 'generally fared as well as, if not better than, married persons.' They also found that people who had no children were no different from parents in the quality of their life in their last month.
Mental health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

People who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals

Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Philosophy
Society exists as a real entity distinct from individuals, comparable to how organs form a brain; denying society's existence while acknowledging individuals is logically inconsistent.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Beyond Suspicion: Why We Doubt Greatness-and What It Says About Us

Mental mastery and team trust are crucial for success in cycling, transcending past performance and skepticism.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the smartest people in life tend to be the loneliest - not because intelligence isolates, but because a mind built for depth finds it genuinely difficult to feel at home in a world that mostly runs on the surface - Silicon Canals

Higher intelligence may lead to decreased life satisfaction with increased social interaction due to a preference for meaningful connections.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Shaming Someone Isn't the Same as Holding Them Accountable

Shaming asserts superiority, silences dissent, and often backfires, perpetuating social control and distorting moral understanding.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Politics of Looking Away

Like us, you may feel paralyzed in the face of the relentless images of violence we see every day. Suffering children, military occupations, the devastated neighborhoods, the cries of parents mourning their dead-these scenes haunt us. Whether it is happening in Palestine or Minneapolis, we are witnesses to suffering, and that witnessing takes a heavy toll. Clearly, the devastating situations in the West Bank and Gaza and in Minneapolis differ
Social justice
US politics
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When Everyone Agrees, Nobody Sees

A multicultural military harnesses immigrant experiences and diverse perspectives to strengthen national defense and improve collective decision-making.
World politics
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

What Happens to Your Identity Under a Dictator

Authoritarian surveillance and fear force self-censorship, creating a split between public persona and authentic self that causes lasting psychological harm.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Have Boundaries Made Us Lonely?

Boundaries have become part of our social understanding in recent years-the importance of setting boundaries has been the focus of many social media posts, books, podcasts, and blog posts right here on Psychology Today. And of course, boundaries are important-they delineate the separation between what is us and what is ours to manage and what belongs to someone else and is theirs to manage. As Prentis Hemphill said, "Boundaries are the distance I can love you and me simultaneously." Boundaries keep us safe.
Public health
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

The Cosmic Closet: Why We Misjudge Others' UFO Beliefs

Most people believe intelligent extraterrestrial life exists, but hesitate discussing it due to perceived social stigma rather than actual skepticism.
World news
fromwww.npr.org
1 month ago

Opinion: Disqualified but not forgotten

An athlete was disqualified for displaying portraits of Ukrainians killed in the war, as the IOC ruled the helmet violated rules against political expression.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to View the Concept of Shaming

If you feel shame, recognize that no one else can shame you; only you can make yourself feel ashamed. Only you have the power to create your emotions-positive, negative, helpful, or unhelpful. The Stoics Hundreds of years ago, the Greek and Roman Stoics advanced that insight. In his treatise the Enchiridion, Epictetus wrote: Men are disturbed not by the things that happen but by their opinions about those things. In his Epistles, Seneca stated: Everything depends on opinion.
Philosophy
fromNature
2 months ago

'Greed is the iron cage of our times' - why nationalism is here to stay

Collating data from the World Bank and other sources in innovative ways, he argues that globalization in the late twentieth and early twenty-first century was accompanied by then-unprecedented growth of income in both previously poor populations (notably in China) and people at the top of the world's income distribution (especially those in the West). By contrast, relative shares of world income stagnated or were thought to have declined for wealthy nations' middle and working classes, including in the United States.
World news
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Truth and Prejudice

Xenophobia in media and policy damages immigrant health and fuels prejudice; diversified news sources and cross-group social engagement help reduce stereotyping.
Social justice
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago

Share The Most Subtle (or Not-So-Subtle) Example Of Toxic Masculinity You've Ever Seen

Toxic masculinity enforces emotional suppression, rigid gender roles, and avoidance of perceived weakness, harming individuals, relationships, and everyday life.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Psychological Theories Follow Social Trends

Psychiatry and psychology mirror prevailing societal values and historical ideologies, shaping theories, treatments, and research priorities across different eras.
Relationships
fromThe Atlantic
2 months ago

How Complaining to Friends Became Controversial

Venting can strengthen or strain friendships; avoiding sharing to prevent burdening others risks making relationships less rich.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Rethinking Emotion: It May Not Be What You Think

Emotions are predictions the brain constructs based on internal signals and past experiences, not merely reactions to external events.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How and Why We Use, Downplay, or Ignore Evidence

The scientific method, though imperfect, remains the best tool for critical thinking and for defending democratic justice against misinformation and cognitive biases.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How Politics Are Tearing Families Apart

Political differences and family conflicts can strain marriages, leading to consideration of separation or cutting off family relationships.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Embracing Intellectual Humility in Political Conversations

Intellectual humility recognizes knowledge limits, seeks other perspectives, and restrains certainty, tribalism, extremism, and contempt in political judgment.
Psychology
fromMail Online
1 month ago

Conspiracy theorists are probably control freaks, study reveals

People with strong preferences for structured, rule-based thinking are more likely to believe conspiracy theories because these theories provide orderly explanations for chaotic events.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
2 months ago

Recently Published Book Spotlight: The Rise of Polarization: Affects, Politics, and Philosophy

Prevailing accounts of affective polarization misdiagnose the phenomenon by focusing on survey patterns instead of the underlying narrative and affective practices that shape political life.
Philosophy
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

8 things people do trying to seem intellectual that actually make educated people cringe - Silicon Canals

Performative intellectualism—jargon, name-dropping, and overcomplication—undermines credibility; genuine intelligence communicates simply and uses precision only when necessary.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
2 months ago

The Limits of "Indoctrination" Talk

Debates over education often conflate ideological disagreement with genuine indoctrination; principled procedural criteria can help distinguish indoctrination from legitimate education.
Psychology
fromThe Atlantic
2 months ago

The Upside of Not Fitting In

Feeling like an outsider often signals growth potential and builds resilience, creativity, and original thinking through discomfort rather than indicating failure.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Other People Just Don't Get It

People often fail to understand others because of low reflective functioning and poor empathic attunement, but perspective-taking skills can be practiced and improved.
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