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Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How Can Survivors Regain Pleasure After Sexual Trauma?

Survivors of sexual trauma can experience a range of sexual responses, including both desire and avoidance, and their fantasies often overlap with non-victims.
#sex-education
SF LGBT
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days ago

Let's talk about sex in a world of porn | Letter

Straight male authors should embrace writing about sex, but the urgent conversation on sexual knowledge and pleasure is happening outside of literature.
Women in technology
fromEsquire
1 month ago

I Was a Porn Star for Decades. Now, as "the Vagician," I Teach Men How to Have Sex.

Marcus London, a 58-year-old porn performer with 4,000 sexual partners, transitioned from adult entertainment to sex education, teaching men techniques that reportedly improved their relationships and sexual satisfaction.
SF LGBT
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days ago

Let's talk about sex in a world of porn | Letter

Straight male authors should embrace writing about sex, but the urgent conversation on sexual knowledge and pleasure is happening outside of literature.
Women in technology
fromEsquire
1 month ago

I Was a Porn Star for Decades. Now, as "the Vagician," I Teach Men How to Have Sex.

Marcus London, a 58-year-old porn performer with 4,000 sexual partners, transitioned from adult entertainment to sex education, teaching men techniques that reportedly improved their relationships and sexual satisfaction.
#relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago
Women in technology

I Had a Fun Surprise Waiting in My Pants for My New Girlfriend. It Freaked Her Out.

Waxing can be interpreted through cultural and personal lenses, affecting perceptions in relationships.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 days ago

I Just Found Out What My New Lover Used to Do With Her Husband. I Could Never Compare.

Trust your partner's feelings about your sex life and communicate openly about desires and experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 days ago

I Just Found Out What My New Lover Used to Do With Her Husband. I Could Never Compare.

Trust your partner's feelings about your sex life and communicate openly about desires and experiences.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
1 week ago

The Possibility of Love at First Sight

Love at first sight is often viewed skeptically, as it may confuse genuine love with mere attraction or infatuation.
Exercise
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

I Spent Years Sculpting My Ripped, Muscular Body. I Love It. My Husband Does Not.

Prioritize your body autonomy and communicate boundaries regarding weight changes for a partner's fetish.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

The Minute This Sex Toy Enters the Bedroom, My Night Is Ruined

Using vibrators during sex can create challenges for tops seeking satisfaction and connection with their partners.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
3 days ago

13 Sex Questions You Probably Haven't Asked Your Partner - But Should

Open communication about sex enhances intimacy and pleasure in relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Psychology suggests the most attractive person in the room is almost never the one trying hardest to be - because effort in the direction of attractiveness is visible, and visibility of effort is the one thing that reliably cancels the effect it's trying to produce - Silicon Canals

Authenticity is more appealing than effortful perfection in social interactions.
Television
fromThe Atlantic
1 month ago

The People Are Starved for Romance

Vladimir fails to deliver genuine chemistry and emotional connection, relying instead on superficial motifs of desire and repetitive fantasies.
#sexual-communication
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Girlfriend's Sexual Behavior Would Really Turn Most Men On. But It's Killing Me With Embarrassment.

Personal preferences in sexual communication vary; not everyone enjoys or feels comfortable with dirty talk.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago
Relationships

The Secret to Better Sex Isn't Better Sex

Open, emotionally safe, positive sexual communication predicts sexual and relationship satisfaction more than frequency, novelty, or technique.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's a Trend That Apparently Drives Women Wild in Bed. It's a Mystery to Me.

Verbal communication during sex, including "talking through it," encompasses feedback, encouragement, and shared fantasy building rather than requiring explicit instruction or performance.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Girlfriend's Sexual Behavior Would Really Turn Most Men On. But It's Killing Me With Embarrassment.

Personal preferences in sexual communication vary; not everyone enjoys or feels comfortable with dirty talk.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's a Trend That Apparently Drives Women Wild in Bed. It's a Mystery to Me.

Verbal communication during sex, including "talking through it," encompasses feedback, encouragement, and shared fantasy building rather than requiring explicit instruction or performance.
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

This Sex Position Reliably Gets Women Off, And You May Not Have Heard Of It

"Roughly two-thirds of women don't have an orgasm with penetration alone. CAT offers direct pressure and rocking and grinding that gives women additional clitoral stimulation."
Women in technology
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Boyfriend Wants Me to Play a New Risque Role in Bed. But My History Will Make It Impossible.

Communicate boundaries clearly and compassionately regarding BDSM interests due to past trauma.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

Embracing 'Outercourse' Might Totally Transform Your Sex Life

Outercourse encompasses various sexual activities beyond penetration, enhancing sexual pleasure and intimacy.
#sexual-orientation
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Have the Holy Trinity of Sex Problems. I Know What Would Solve Them, but I'm Too Scared to Try.

Exploring sexual orientation can involve complex feelings and societal pressures, especially regarding bisexuality and the fear of judgment.
#intimacy
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.
Psychology
fromMail Online
1 month ago

Why red lipstick fans are secret spice lovers

Eating spicy food increases consumers' preference for colorful products by up to 30 percent due to heightened excitement and positive arousal from benign masochism.
fromBustle
2 months ago

This Lingerie Is Sexy As Hell & Shockingly Affordable

These lingerie looks are made with luxe materials like thick satin, delicate chains, and feathers that will make you feel like a silver-screen siren. Just be warned that once you start collecting this kind of elegant lingerie, it can become a bit of a habit-don't be surprised if you find yourself looking for coordinating undies and sexy accessories to complete the aesthetic.
Fashion & style
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Don't Manifest More Pleasure. Do This Instead

Visualising "your best life" can boost mood and create a sense of hopefulness. That good feeling you get, and the boost in your mood, are nothing to sneeze at, but-and there is a but-feeling good is not the same as creating change. And this is where it can get tricky when you are applying it to a sex life that you actively want to change.
Miscellaneous
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

8 things naturally elegant people do without thinking that you can't fake no matter how hard you try - Silicon Canals

True elegance arises from ingrained habits—genuine listening, comfort with silence, and authentic presence—not performative behavior.
#sexuality
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Love Sex With Other Women. I Can't Explain My Most Persistent Fantasy.

Changing unwanted sexual fantasies is difficult, especially when they are tied to negative past experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Love Sex With Other Women. I Can't Explain My Most Persistent Fantasy.

Changing unwanted sexual fantasies is difficult, especially when they are tied to negative past experiences.
Women
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Why Feeling "Desired" Changes With Age, & How That Affects Sex

Aging and childbirth cause physical changes that undermine sexual self‑image, while societal pressures push costly 'fixes' instead of compassionate reframing and realistic expectations.
Marketing
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Best Persuasion Involves Sex Appeal, Humor, and Comparisons

Persuasive approaches combining excitement and positivity achieve both effectiveness and likeability, resolving the conflict between changing behavior and maintaining relationships.
fromLondon On The Inside
2 months ago

Is Your Bit on the Side Too Sexy?

Somewhere between truffle fries and fully loaded fries, we crossed a line. What began as indulgent extras has turned into a full-blown flavour arms race. Carrots arrive drenched in hot honey and chilli. Cabbage is glossed with XO. Potatoes are crushed, confit, fried twice, showered in herbs, spice blends and something crunchy for good measure. Sides aren't padding. They're flavour bombs, competing with starters and mains for attention.
Food & drink
Fashion & style
fromBustle
2 months ago

Sexy Bodysuits, Swimsuits, & Lingerie That Are So Comfy

Feelingirl's seamless bralette offers underwire-free lift and separation, selling over two million units, while the brand also offers supportive shapewear-inspired lingerie and sultry bodysuits.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

When My Girlfriend Went Down on Me, I Instantly Knew Something Was Very Wrong. Then I Realized What She'd Done.

Spicy food can cause discomfort during oral sex, leading to communication issues between partners.
#valentines-day
fromBustle
2 months ago
Fashion & style

Get All (Un)dressed Up For V-Day - These Hot Lingerie Styles Are Up To 70% Off

fromBustle
2 months ago
Fashion & style

Get All (Un)dressed Up For V-Day - These Hot Lingerie Styles Are Up To 70% Off

fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Real Science of Smell and Attraction

Unlike sight or sound, smell has a direct pathway to the amygdala and hippocampus-the regions involved in emotion and autobiographical memory. Because of this connection, memories triggered by scent are often more vivid and emotionally intense than those triggered by sight.
Psychology
fromBustle
2 months ago

55 Clever Things That Make You Look Sexier With Almost No Effort

You might be amazed at how easy it can be to spice up your look, especially with the clever pieces included in this list. Scroll on to shop beauty products that'll get you glowing, accessories and undies that'll accentuate your favorite features, and more. These smartly designed products dial up the heat - and require so little work, they're practically magic. For an instantly sexier vibe, scroll on.
Fashion & style
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I'm Some People's Ultimate Fantasy. So Why Do They Run for the Hills When They Meet Me?

Take initiative on dates by signaling sexual interest through innuendo or direct proposition instead of letting shyness block opportunities.
#praise-kink
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why "Praise Kink" Might Be The Perfect Dirty Talk For You & Your Partner

Praise kink is a sexual desire for affirmation and positive feedback that activates the brain's reward center, making it an accessible entry point into kink exploration for partners seeking deeper connection.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why Do Women Like To Be Called 'Good Girl' In Bed? Sexperts Explain

Women may enjoy being called 'good girl' during sex because it combines mild submission with praise, often indicating a praise kink or power dynamic preference without requiring full BDSM engagement.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why "Praise Kink" Might Be The Perfect Dirty Talk For You & Your Partner

Praise kink is a sexual desire for affirmation and positive feedback that activates the brain's reward center, making it an accessible entry point into kink exploration for partners seeking deeper connection.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why Do Women Like To Be Called 'Good Girl' In Bed? Sexperts Explain

Women may enjoy being called 'good girl' during sex because it combines mild submission with praise, often indicating a praise kink or power dynamic preference without requiring full BDSM engagement.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Is Making Love Different from Just Having Sex?

Making love differs from casual sex through patience, emotional intimacy, and temporal richness, involving slower, more tender interactions and deeper connection.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Boyfriend and I Are Stuck in a Vicious Sex Cycle. There Has to Be a Way Out.

Switching sexual roles requires gradual practice, clear communication, explicit consent, addressing physical discomfort and stigma, and using preparation and nonsexual role-play to build comfort.
Psychology
fromMail Online
2 months ago

Revealed: What your sexual fantasies say about you

Frequent sexual fantasies associate with higher neuroticism and depression risk, while infrequent fantasies link to greater conscientiousness or agreeableness.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The Guy I'm Seeing Says I'm the "Exception" to Everything He Likes in Bed. Uh, Is This a Red Flag?

A partner's past mistreatment of other women is a significant red flag, regardless of how well he currently treats you.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Want to Teach My Girlfriend a New Trick in Bed. The Problem Is Where I Learned It From.

A man seeks advice on whether to teach his girlfriend a specific oral technique he learned from another woman during their breakup, fearing jealousy despite her stated desire to make him orgasm.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My New Girlfriend Just Told Me What She Wants Me to Do to Her in Bed. This Feels Wrong.

Communication about specific BDSM preferences is essential before assuming domination means denigration; partners should discuss what submission and dominance actually mean to them individually.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How to Win at the Game of Love With Competitive Flirting

Flirting serves multiple adaptive functions: attracting mates by signaling erotic availability, deterring rivals by implying commitment, and manipulating social or material advantages.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says people who are a joy to talk to often display these 7 subtle qualities that draw others in - Silicon Canals

Small, learnable conversational habits—undivided attention, remembering details, and subtle behaviors—create a magnetic, energizing presence in conversations.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Lied About My Entire Identity to a Very Close Friend. Now I Want to Come Clean ... So I Can Sleep With Her.

A man who deceived his female friend by claiming to be gay to gain her trust cannot ethically pursue romance without confessing the deception first.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Really Need My Boyfriend to Go Down on Me. What He Does Instead Is Maddening.

Sexual incompatibility rooted in unresolved fear or insecurity requires honest communication and exploration of alternative ways to express intimacy and devotion beyond specific acts.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The Man I'm Seeing Swears He's Not Gay. I Have Some Questions.

A woman dating an effeminate man struggles with attraction differences and seeks advice on discussing his gender expression without offending him.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Is Kissing Essential for Exciting Sex?

Passionate kissing ranges from light pecks to intense French kissing, serving as intimate emotional communication, yet many people avoid it despite its role in romantic relationships.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What Puts a Woman in the Mood?

The mind is the primary sex organ for women, serving as the gatekeeper for physical intimacy, and emotional connection with a partner significantly increases sexual desire.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

What Porn, Affairs, and Early Romance Teach Us About Desire

Passion intensifies when uncertainty, vulnerability, and risk are present, whereas safety and predictability in long-term relationships often diminish erotic intensity.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Does Positive Body Image Alone Improve One's Sex Life?

Many people who struggle with sexual connection, low desire, or relationship satisfaction may not be struggling with the love they feel for a partner or the level of commitment they have to their romantic relationship(s). What they may secretly be challenged by is the lack of comfort and safety they have in their own skin.
Relationships
fromInsideHook
1 month ago

Is This the Year You Get Back to the Basics of Sex?

In the past, when we've done these analyses, we've seen couples express an interest in bondage play or sensory play. But this year, we're almost seeing a shift towards getting back to basics. I found it so interesting that regardless of gender, age or where you live, people want more oral sex.
Relationships
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Ladies, We've Got To Stop Being Afraid To Sit On Our Partner's Faces (They *Love* It)

Men often enjoy face-sitting because it intensifies intimacy, centers the woman's pleasure, and creates a reversed power dynamic many find erotic.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Just Told Me What She Thinks About While We Have Sex. It's So Much Worse Than I Thought.

At any point, any of your partners may have been thinking of someone (or even something) else to help themselves get over the edge. The idea of making someone orgasm with, to put it your way, just you is an illusion. People bring a lifetime of experience to the sex they have, including ways to help facilitate orgasm. Sex alone may not be enough to get your wife to come.
Relationships
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

When Sexual Frequency Becomes the Silent Issue

Unspoken sexual expectations within monogamy create conflict when desire changes asymmetrically, often after childbirth or menopause, requiring frank conversation to revive intimacy.
fromInsideHook
2 months ago

On Your Next Date, Go Color Hunting

"Me and my girlfriend went on color hunting in Berlin this weekend," user Erikas Mališauskas shared on X. "We picked two random colors and had to make a 3×3 photo grid featuring that color. I got yellow, she got blue, here's the result." Commenters rallied together in agreement, saying how good of an idea this is.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Suggested I Try Out a New Sexual Experience. Where It Needs to Happen, Though, Is a Whole New World to Me.

Follow posted rules, bring cash, be polite, tip well, avoid touching performers, confirm extra charges, and consider visiting during slow hours.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I'm Ready for My Big Sexual Awakening. But I'm Searching for a Specific Kind of Guy.

Virginity is not a precious commodity to preserve for one person; instead, prioritize gaining sexual experience, confidence, and skills with partners who respect your pleasure.
fromEsquire
2 months ago

I Started a Sex Club to Help People Express Their Deepest Desires

In New York, sex-positive communities have evolved into something more organized than outsiders tend to imagine. Not just parties, but curated ecosystems built on vetting, trust, and a shared commitment to consent. Alain Rostain, a Yale-trained computer scientist and longtime consultant, spent much of his life drawn to power, structure, and desire. Eventually, he applied the same thinking he used in professional settings to the messiest arena of all: intimacy.
Relationships
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

This Is What Couples Who Are Really In Love Look Like, According To Body Language Experts

Nonverbal behaviors—touch, gaze, posture, and spatial movement—form the emotional undercurrent that signals intimacy, intentions, and trust between romantic partners.
Relationships
fromIndependent
2 months ago

Modern Morals: I've never had an orgasm - how do I tell my boyfriend I've been lying without wounding his pride?

Persistent inability to orgasm coexists with a strong need to control sexual experiences; enjoys sex but reports never orgasming and tells partner orgasms are subtle.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Can Get Me to the Finish Line in Many Ways. Except the One I Really Want.

Some men cannot reach orgasm from oral stimulation; trying temporary abstinence, prostate stimulation, or adjusting stimulation dynamics may help but results are not guaranteed.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Girlfriend and I Can Only Have Sex in a Unique Way. She Thinks I'm Going to Leave Her in Search of Something More "Conventional."

Her preferred form of intimacy is to touch herself while letting me pump her mouth. It's been great and honestly hot, and she leans submissive in bed, so it's worked out well on that end, too. It's perfectly fulfilling for me and even unintentionally kinky in a way I like, and she says she enjoys that I'm still actively penetrating her even if not in a typical way.
Relationships
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

This Sex Position Reliably Gets Women Off

The coital alignment technique (CAT) modifies missionary sex to increase clitoral stimulation and substantially raise women's orgasm frequency.
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