Visualising "your best life" can boost mood and create a sense of hopefulness. That good feeling you get, and the boost in your mood, are nothing to sneeze at, but-and there is a but-feeling good is not the same as creating change. And this is where it can get tricky when you are applying it to a sex life that you actively want to change.
As much as I'm a fan of partnered sex, I've learned that the best (and easiest) way to elevate any sexual experience is by bringing couples' sex toys into the equation. These are not just toys you use with a partner(s) in the bedroom, but they also include devices that can be controlled remotely, whether you're in a long-distance relationship or your partner is on a business trip.
There are plenty of people who have years of training in tantra, and who practice a very different style than I do. But for me, it's a combination of tantric techniques and bodywork that creates a fun, sexy experience, mostly for people who want to get off. This involves sharing a very intimate, close space with someone. They're fully naked, I'm partially naked, there's relaxing music playing, and we sort of "connect" or "exchange energy" before jumping into the massage.
According to the survey, 30% of Americans believe romance is dead. I'm not surprised - what's the point? Fortunately, 69% of those not in relationships said they were happy being single.