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Writing
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours agoI'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals
Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a generation of men who were taught that providing was the same as loving. And there's a generation of their children who spent years in therapy learning that those aren't the same thing, only to reach an age where they finally understand that for their fathers, inside the architecture they were given, it was. - Silicon Canals
Emotional estrangement between fathers and children stems from generational differences in expressing love and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals
Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals
Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
fromOregon ArtsWatch * Arts & Culture News
3 days agoFilmWatch Weekly: Camus' 'The Stranger' on screen, Christian Petzold's 'Miroirs No. 3,' and more * Oregon ArtsWatch
François Ozon's adaptation of The Stranger, while visually stunning, reveals the limitations of cinema in depicting the complex inner states of consciousness that Camus masterfully crafted in his text.
Writing
from48 hills
2 days agoDrama Masks: Mad, bad, and dangerous to see - 48 hills
The final show I review below got me looks that made me feel like a fish in a bowl. First, the private security at the door had two Valiant rent-a-cops who scowling at me-and only me-with that same 'Give me an excuse!' glare I've gotten from real cops all my life.
Arts
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
Independent films
fromVulture
2 weeks agoBlue Heron Will Wreck You in the Best Possible Way
Blue Heron explores how one family member's mental health crisis and behavioral issues create lasting ripples across a Hungarian family's life in 1990s Vancouver, using innovative formal techniques to examine memory and time.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks agoI've Fallen in Love. But This Is the One Sort of Person I'm Not "Supposed" to Be With.
Sexual orientation and romantic attraction can be fluid and evolve throughout life; mutual love and attraction are valuable regardless of how they fit previous self-definitions.
fromScary Mommy
2 weeks agoWhy Do Women Love Romance Tropes That Would Be Red Flags IRL? Experts Explain
On the page, we have total control - we see what's happening inside the character's mind, the narrative is designed to have a safe outcome, and there are no real-world repercussions. This allows us to safely explore strong emotions such as danger, obsession, or dominance. Often, these scenarios present these actions with emotional intensity, vulnerability, or chemistry, which can make them feel incredibly exciting and romantically charged, even though intellectually, we understand that these scenarios would not be appropriate.
Books
Music
fromwww.npr.org
1 month agoWhy music has become such a big part of the romance novel reading experience
Romance novel readers increasingly use pop music playlists to enhance their reading experiences, creating a community that bridges book fandom and music fandom, exemplified by Charli XCX's Wuthering Heights album.
Books
fromThe Atlantic
1 month agoWhen Did Literature Get Less Dirty?
Philip Roth's Zuckerman Unbound functioned as a response to the controversial reception of Portnoy's Complaint, with Roth's protagonist expressing regret over writing sexually explicit material that drew accusations of anti-Semitism and misogyny.
fromQueerty
3 weeks agoWATCH: Gay lovers risk everything in tense Canadian queer drama We'll Find Happiness - Queerty
Saad (Mehdi Meskar) is a young Moroccan exile in Quebec who will do anything to save Reza (Aron Archer), his Iranian refugee lover who faces being sent back to his home country. In a desperate move, Saad sets out to seduce a high-ranking spokesperson (played by Alexandre Landry) from the ministry of immigration in a risky gambit that sets off a fateful chain of events.
Film
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoBurn Your Romance Novels!
The short answer is yes, unless you take fiction for what it is-fiction. When you long for something you don't have, it can lead to dissatisfaction with what you DO have. Romantic fiction has witty, heartfelt dialogue, buckets of romantic gestures, and protagonists who have a preternatural ability to read each other's minds. It's easy to forget it is not real. This can set up unrealistic expectations both conscious and unconscious.
Relationships
Film
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks agoScarlet review Mamoru Hosoda turns Hamlet into tale of prowling knights and deep nothingness'
Mamoru Hosoda's anime adaptation of Hamlet, Scarlet, features stunning visuals but suffers from incoherent storytelling, arbitrary world-building, and heavy-handed philosophical messaging that undermines its narrative impact.
Film
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month agoSirat:' is not the movie you think it is it's better
Sirat is a sensory-driven film that transcends conventional thriller storytelling through hypnotic sound design, unexpected plot developments, and exploration of universal themes like faith, death, and redemption.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoMy Wife Asked My Permission to Sleep With Her Best Friend. I Thought My Saying No Would Be the End of It. Oh Boy.
A married woman secretly pursued a sexual, emotionally intimate relationship with her female best friend, causing betrayal, jealousy, and conflicted arousal in her husband.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoWe Are All Strangers review two weddings and a baby in marvellously addictive family drama
The warmth, richness and approachability of this lovely film from Singaporean director Anthony Chen, a graduate of Britain's National Film and Television School, returns him to the family drama style of his 2013 debut Ilo Ilo; with care and connoisseurship, he again draws on the influences of Edward Yang and Tsai Ming-liang, but Chen's instincts are less oblique. He dots the I's and crosses the T's; the film-making is forthright and wholehearted though not unsubtle.
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