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Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How the Highly Neurotic Keep Their Neuroticism Going

Stress perception is subjective, influenced by neuroticism, and can affect emotional recovery from both positive and negative life changes.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

The Power of Positive Choices and Taking Control

Personal empowerment and responsibility begin with the choice to engage with the internet and the content it offers.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
23 hours ago

Psychology says the people who come across as genuinely disciplined aren't grinding through willpower or running on motivation, they're the ones who quietly removed the decisions from their day a long time ago, and what looks like iron self-control from the outside is just a life designed so the hard choice rarely shows up - Silicon Canals

Building a disciplined life relies on well-designed systems rather than sheer willpower or grit.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Reassurance Is Not the Same as Repair

Daniel and Marcus's relationship, built on reliability, faced challenges due to mutual avoidance of difficult emotions, leading to disconnection.
#mental-health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago
Humor

Welcome to the Anxiety Club

Humor and mental health intertwine in 'Anxiety Club,' showcasing comedians' struggles and promoting open conversations about anxiety.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Developing a Helpful Long-Term Perspective After Psychosis

Short-term thinking and emotions are common in early recovery from trauma, but developing a long-term perspective is essential for healing.
Humor
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Welcome to the Anxiety Club

Humor and mental health intertwine in 'Anxiety Club,' showcasing comedians' struggles and promoting open conversations about anxiety.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Developing a Helpful Long-Term Perspective After Psychosis

Short-term thinking and emotions are common in early recovery from trauma, but developing a long-term perspective is essential for healing.
more#mental-health
LGBT
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

What We Misunderstand About Jung's Shadow

Shame is often conscious for gay men, while worth, resilience, and capability remain unconscious, impacting their mental health and relationships.
Law
fromAbove the Law
2 days ago

Sex, Drugs, And Social Media Addiction - Above the Law

Social media addiction is recognized legally, with a jury finding it comparable to substance addiction, leading to support groups like Media Addicts Anonymous.
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

How Mistakes Springboard Conscientious People's Growth

Many mistakes move us forward more than backward. Conscientious people often experience a springboard effect following mistakes, whereby fixing the mistakes accelerates growth faster than if they'd never made any missteps.
Productivity
Medicine
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Move More, Stress Less

Parkinson's disease affects millions globally, with symptoms including motor and nonmotor issues, and may be managed through exercise and dietary changes.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

3 Amazing Ways You Can Re-Parent Yourself

Emotional lessons missed in childhood can be learned in adulthood through compassionate responsibility and self-discipline.
Health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Many Faces of Procrastination and Health Behaviors

Procrastination can negatively impact health by delaying doctor visits and healthy behaviors.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 hour ago

Internal Family Systems and the Predictive Brain

The brain uses past experiences to predict future outcomes and updates its predictions based on new sensory information.
#resilience
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

Psychology says the most resilient people aren't the ones who never fell apart - they're the ones who fell apart quietly, rebuilt themselves with no audience, and never mentioned it - Silicon Canals

Strength comes from overcoming breakdowns, not from avoiding them.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

Psychology says the most resilient people aren't the ones who never fell apart - they're the ones who fell apart quietly, rebuilt themselves with no audience, and never mentioned it - Silicon Canals

Strength comes from overcoming breakdowns, not from avoiding them.
more#resilience
Philosophy
Society grapples with accepting mortality while simultaneously resisting control over death, creating a tension in attitudes toward life extension and end-of-life choices.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

The people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals

Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 hour ago

How Covert Narcissists Use 'Helpfulness' to Manipulate You

Covert narcissists manipulate through perceived helpfulness, creating dependency and undermining personal autonomy.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the people who find it hardest to be taken care of when they're sick aren't independent, they're carrying a very old belief that needing someone was the fastest way to be left - Silicon Canals

Needing care from loved ones during illness can evoke feelings of vulnerability and discomfort, often rooted in deeper fears of abandonment.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

If you've been trying to change your life and keep ending up in the same patterns, the problem probably isn't the plan, it's that the part of you making the plan is the same part of you that built the life you're trying to change - Silicon Canals

Current mindset limits the ability to create meaningful change; the same self cannot solve the problems it created.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

How to Stop Feeling Lonely in Your Relationship

Early survival habits can create emotional distance in intimate relationships, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Working With the Inner Child

The inner child concept emphasizes how childhood experiences shape our adult selves and the importance of healing through compassionate responses.
#anxiety
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Mindfulness
fromFast Company
1 day ago

4 science-backed skills to start flourishing and change your life

Flourishing is a learnable skill that can be developed through practice and simple exercises.
#narcissism
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

When Failure Seems Imminent, What Happens to the Narcissist?

Narcissistic individuals are particularly sensitive to failure and often rationalize it to protect their self-image.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

When Failure Seems Imminent, What Happens to the Narcissist?

Narcissistic individuals are particularly sensitive to failure and often rationalize it to protect their self-image.
more#narcissism
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours ago

Psychology says the people described as having a strong personality aren't dominant or difficult, they're the ones who stopped softening themselves to make every room comfortable, and what reads as intensity from the outside is just the absence of the apology most people are still adding to every sentence - Silicon Canals

People often misinterpret strong personalities as difficult, but they may simply be unafraid to express themselves without apology.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

When Life Stops: But Only for You

Illness disrupts not only physiology but also our entire sense of existence and future, leading to a profound confrontation with uncertainty and mortality.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the most powerful words you can learn aren't 'I'm sorry' or 'I love you', they're 'that doesn't work for me', said without explanation or apology - Silicon Canals

Setting boundaries is essential for personal well-being and requires clarity and confidence.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The hardest thing about healing isn't the work itself. It's the quiet grief of realizing how many years you spent believing the problem was you, when the actual problem was an environment that needed you to believe that in order to keep functioning - Silicon Canals

Family systems may require a child to remain unwell for their own functionality, leading to grief and loss when the child realizes their true self.
#rumination
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fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

7 Lessons for When Your Attempts to Control Outcomes Fail

Many situations contain irreducible uncertainty. No matter how many variables we try to control, we can't reduce uncertainty to zero. It's inherent in the messiness of life.
Productivity
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says deep thinkers don't realize the reason they feel disconnected from their own life isn't depression - it's that observation became a shelter they forgot how to leave - Silicon Canals

Chronic detachment often misdiagnosed as depression or stress may stem from a learned behavior of observing rather than experiencing life.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals

Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 34 and I just noticed that I've been describing my own life to friends in the same tone I'd use to describe someone else's, and that distance turned out to be the actual problem, not the events I was describing - Silicon Canals

Self-distancing can help manage emotions, but relying on it too much can create a disconnect from one's own life experiences.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Existential Therapy Is More than Philosophy-And It Works

Human suffering often stems from psychological narrowing and avoidance of life's paradoxes, while meaning-centered therapies effectively reduce distress.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology suggests you will always push away good things if your subconscious mind doesn't believe you deserve them - and most people who do this don't recognize it as pushing, they just wonder why nothing good ever seems to stay - Silicon Canals

Self-sabotage often occurs unconsciously, pushing good things away despite a desire for improvement.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the most disciplined morning habit isn't waking up early, meditating, or cold plunging, it's the specific discipline of not touching your phone until you've had at least one quiet conversation with your own mind - Silicon Canals

Avoid using your phone immediately after waking to foster mental clarity and enhance the effectiveness of other morning practices.
Mental health
fromTiny Buddha
4 days ago

Breaking Free from Self-Consciousness and Erythrophobia - Tiny Buddha

Shame can lead to intense fear and avoidance of situations that trigger feelings of unworthiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Research suggests the habit of deferring happiness - 'I'll enjoy life when the kids leave, when I retire, when things calm down' - isn't patience, it's a pattern that simply moves the horizon forward no matter how much you achieve - Silicon Canals

Delaying happiness for future rewards leads to increased misery in the present without guaranteeing future satisfaction.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

The 3 Reasons Why Overthinking Gets Worse When You're Alone

Overthinking intensifies in isolation, while social connections help interrupt mental loops and promote action.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Some people don't stay quiet in arguments because they're calm, they stay quiet because they ran the math years ago and concluded that saying the thing costs more than swallowing it, and they've been paying the cheaper price so long they forgot it was a choice - Silicon Canals

Silence in arguments often results from an automatic cost-benefit analysis rather than emotional mastery or composure.
Mindfulness
fromBig Think
4 days ago

Why rest alone doesn't restore energy

Energy management requires active engagement rather than passive rest; inactivity can lead to increased fatigue.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Question Behind the Question

Emotional questions often underlie technical inquiries, highlighting the need for addressing patients' emotional needs in medical conversations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Some people who appear completely unbothered by criticism haven't stopped caring what others think. They've just moved the audience inside, and now they answer to a version of themselves that never gives them a day off - Silicon Canals

Internalized criticism often masquerades as resilience, leading to preemptive self-critique before external feedback is received.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

How to Talk About Childhood Issues Without Blaming the Parents

Unresolved parental trauma can manifest in children's psychiatric symptoms, perpetuating trauma across generations unless actively addressed.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The hardest part of being called too sensitive as a child isn't the label itself. It's the decades you spend afterward trying to feel less, without realizing you were slowly subtracting yourself from your own life - Silicon Canals

The term 'sensitive' can carry a damaging tone that leads to long-term emotional adjustments and a life shaped by others' expectations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the people who finally meet themselves in their 60s and 70s aren't reinventing anything, they're meeting the original person who got buried under decades of being useful to everyone else, and the relief they feel is recognition, not discovery - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to self-discovery, revealing the original self buried under roles and responsibilities.
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

When Anger Waits: The Turtle Technique Beyond Childhood

The turtle technique is often introduced to children to help them manage strong emotions, guiding them to pause, breathe, and step back before reacting. It sounds simple, yet it carries depth when practiced with intention.
Mindfulness
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Why Avoiding Your Emotions Makes Them Stronger

Avoiding thoughts and emotions often intensifies them, while small shifts in response can help manage emotions effectively.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals

Genuine confidence stems from self-awareness, not the need to broadcast one's worth or achievements.
#people-pleasing
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

5 Reasons Why People-Pleasing Hurts More Than It Helps

People-pleasing can undermine authentic connections and harm mental health, leading to resentment and exploitation in relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

5 Reasons Why People-Pleasing Hurts More Than It Helps

People-pleasing can undermine authentic connections and harm mental health, leading to resentment and exploitation in relationships.
more#people-pleasing
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says a truly successful life isn't measured by what you've accumulated, it's measured by whether the people closest to you feel more like themselves or less like themselves after spending time with you - Silicon Canals

Success should be measured by the quality of relationships and personal fulfillment rather than external achievements.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to Recover from a Bad Case of the F**k-its

The 'f**k-its' stem from unhelpful thinking patterns that can be addressed through cognitive restructuring and practical coping strategies.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific kind of person who apologizes for things that weren't their fault, and it isn't low self-esteem. It's a preemptive fee they learned to pay to keep situations from escalating into something worse - Silicon Canals

Apologies can serve as a preemptive tool to de-escalate potential conflict, rather than solely indicating low self-esteem.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Is Emotional Regulation Effective Everywhere?

Emotional regulation involves actively managing emotions through suppression or reappraisal, influencing their emergence and impact on our lives.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals

Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the reason so many high-achievers can't enjoy their own wins isn't imposter syndrome, it's that achievement was the language they were taught love was spoken in, and they've never learned to receive love in any other form - Silicon Canals

High-achievers often feel unsatisfied with their accomplishments due to a childhood belief that achievement equals worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology suggests there's a certain type of anger that lives inside the most agreeable people - it's the anger of swallowing every small injustice, every dismissive comment, every overlooked contribution for decades, and the reason the calmest person in your family might one day explode over something trivial isn't the trivial thing, it's the fifty years of larger things they never allowed themselves to react to - Silicon Canals

Agreeableness can lead to emotional accumulation, resulting in explosive reactions over seemingly trivial matters due to suppressed feelings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific kind of adult who apologizes for crying even when they're alone, and it isn't sensitivity, it's the residue of a childhood where emotion was something you were expected to clean up before anyone saw the mess - Silicon Canals

Adults who were invalidated in childhood often apologize for their emotions, reflecting deep-seated patterns of emotional suppression.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days ago

The emotional security secret: how to get healthier, happier and have stronger relationships

Amir Levine's new book, Secure, offers tools to help individuals develop secure attachment styles for improved relationships and longevity.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Psychoanalysis Is a Type of Exposure Therapy

Psychoanalysis and exposure therapy both involve gradual exposure to feared stimuli, with relationships being the primary focus in psychoanalysis.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Emotions Are Facts: Why Therapy Requires Talking About Them

Discussing emotions is a fundamental, non-optional component of psychotherapy, not an optional preference that clients can avoid.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Your Most Horrifying Thoughts May Not Mean What You Think

Intrusive sexual thoughts are a common form of OCD, often misidentified and not indicative of actual desire.
Mental health
Worry is future-focused mental rehearsal that distracts from deeper emotions, harms physical and emotional health, persists through perceived protection and habit, and requires compassionate awareness and boundaries to transform into growth.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Quintessential Secrets of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy involves varied definitions and debated practices, with acceptance-focused principles and techniques like free association helping many clients achieve change.
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