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1 hour agoYoung people are crowding underground phone-free parties. I went to one.
A growing movement among Gen Z is embracing phone-free parties to escape the influence of technology and reconnect socially.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe epidemic isn't loneliness - it's the number of people who've been lonely so long they've stopped registering it as loneliness and started calling it personality - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can be misinterpreted as independence or preference, leading to a lack of recognition of the feeling itself.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe loneliest people at any gathering are almost never the ones standing alone by the wall. They're the ones laughing in the middle of the group who will drive home afterward in complete silence and not call anyone about it. - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from being surrounded by people who believe they know you, rather than from physical absence.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoSomewhere around 55 a man realizes that every friend he has is actually his wife's friend's husband, and if the dinner invitations ever stopped coming, he would not have a single person to call, and he knows this, and he has never said it out loud - Silicon Canals
Loneliness in men often increases with age, despite societal beliefs that marriage and family provide social fulfillment.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe epidemic isn't loneliness - it's the number of people who've been lonely so long they've stopped registering it as loneliness and started calling it personality - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can be misinterpreted as independence or preference, leading to a lack of recognition of the feeling itself.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe loneliest people at any gathering are almost never the ones standing alone by the wall. They're the ones laughing in the middle of the group who will drive home afterward in complete silence and not call anyone about it. - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from being surrounded by people who believe they know you, rather than from physical absence.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a version of loneliness that only arrives inside a crowded room full of people who like you, and it comes from the slow realization that what they like is a performance you can no longer remember choosing to start - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can persist even in social settings, stemming from a disconnect between one's true self and the persona they project.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoSomewhere around 55 a man realizes that every friend he has is actually his wife's friend's husband, and if the dinner invitations ever stopped coming, he would not have a single person to call, and he knows this, and he has never said it out loud - Silicon Canals
Loneliness in men often increases with age, despite societal beliefs that marriage and family provide social fulfillment.
Philosophy
fromThe Village Voice
11 hours agoHistoric Preservation as Cultural Self-Reflection: Reclaiming Stories, Identity, and Meaning in a Changing Urban Landscape - The Village Voice
Historic preservation is a cultural practice that shapes community identity and values, rather than merely a technical effort to protect old buildings.
fromStreetsblog New York City
9 hours agoTuesday's Headlines: Cops Are Doing It Wrong Edition - Streetsblog New York City
A state judge has ruled that every red-light ticket written to a cyclist under the state's vehicle and traffic law since 2019 is bogus. The city legalized the practice of biking through a red light on a pedestrian 'walk' signal, yet NYPD cops have been wrongly writing tickets for cyclists who go through the 'red' on the walk signal.
New York City
fromVulture
12 hours agoBrianna LaPaglia Says Alex Cooper 'Capitalized' on Breakup with Grace O'Malley
Posting old DMs from 2022-2023 when I didn't know any of these things about you. When you didn't try to poach a vulnerable person, my ex-best friend, and capitalize off of a very real situation between the two of us.
Podcast
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoSome people aren't the planner in every friend group because they like control. They became the planner because they noticed, early and painfully, that when they didn't initiate, nobody did, and being forgotten felt worse than doing all the work - Silicon Canals
Chronic planners often act out of a fear of being forgotten rather than a desire for control or dominance.
Photography
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who always volunteer to take the group photo instead of being in it aren't being helpful - they've found the one socially acceptable way to remove themselves from the frame without anyone asking why, and that quiet self-removal is the most visible invisible thing a person can do in a room full of people who never notice who's missing from the picture until years later when someone asks "wait, where were you?" - Silicon Canals
People often hide behind cameras at events to avoid being in front of them, masking their insecurities.
Social justice
fromLGBTQ Nation
4 days agoA gay bar kicked out a wheelchair user as a "fire risk." Her response forced the bar to make amends. - LGBTQ Nation
Club Tropicana in Manchester apologized to Maddie Haining after discriminating against her as a wheelchair user, violating U.K. disability access laws.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI've spent my entire life being described as "the strong one" - and last month I sat in my car in a parking lot and cried for 45 minutes, and the thing that made me cry hardest was that there was no one to call - Silicon Canals
Feeling isolated and vulnerable can be overwhelming, especially when one has always been the strong support for others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals
Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoThe people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals
Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who go quiet in groups but are completely themselves one-on-one aren't shy - they're people who can only be real when the room feels safe, and a group never does, so they send a polite stand-in to the dinner party and save the actual person for the drive home with the one friend who earned access - Silicon Canals
Some individuals are selective about when they feel safe to be themselves, distinguishing between shyness and carefulness in social settings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the quietest person in a group conversation often isn't the least engaged - they're often the one processing at a depth the loudest voices in the room have stopped bothering to reach - Silicon Canals
Silence in group settings often indicates deep cognitive processing rather than disengagement.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
23 hours agoMost people don't realize that the sharpest loneliness in midlife isn't having no friends - it's having friends who knew an earlier version of you and have no interest in meeting who you've become - Silicon Canals
Loneliness in midlife often stems from friends not updating their understanding of each other, rather than a lack of social connections.
#friendship
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who reach their 60s without close friends aren't the ones who lost everyone along the way - many of them made a series of quiet, deliberate choices over decades to stop investing in relationships that required them to perform, accommodate, or shrink, and what looks like loneliness from the outside is often the result of finally choosing themselves - Silicon Canals
Many older adults choose solitude over draining relationships, prioritizing deeper connections over maintaining superficial friendships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoName one person who knows what you're actually going through right now. Not the curated version. The real one. If it took you more than three seconds, that's not a failure of friendship - that's the architecture of modern adulthood working exactly as designed - Silicon Canals
Friendships in adulthood are endangered due to the challenges of fostering new connections and renegotiating old ones.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe forgotten generation isn't the young people struggling to find their place in the world - it's the retirees sitting in fully paid-off houses with lifetimes of experience, waiting for a phone call that the modern world no longer knows it's supposed to make - Silicon Canals
Older adults possess valuable experience but are often overlooked and isolated in contemporary society.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals
Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoResearch suggests that people who say they prefer being alone aren't always telling the truth. Many of them preferred connection until it repeatedly disappointed them, and solitude became the story they told to make the disappointment portable. - Silicon Canals
Solitude is often misinterpreted as a preference, when it may actually be an adaptation to past relational failures.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNot everyone who keeps a small social circle is protecting their energy. Some of them built a wide one once, watched it reveal exactly how many people would show up during an actual emergency, and quietly restructured around the answer - Silicon Canals
Small social circles often result from past crises that reveal true friendships, rather than a preference for fewer connections.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPeople who keep their circle small aren't antisocial. They genuinely learned that intimacy and popularity are opposing forces, even though loneliness occasionally shows up as the cost of admission - Silicon Canals
Intimacy and popularity are competing pursuits; small social circles reflect a natural structure of human relationships, not a failure of social development.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThere's a specific kind of loneliness that only hits people who are surrounded by others but known by none of them - Silicon Canals
Research published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences found that the quality of social interactions - specifically whether people felt genuinely understood - predicted loneliness far more reliably than the quantity of interactions. You could see a hundred people a week and still qualify as lonely by every meaningful measure.
Mental health
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