#pleasure-and-intimacy

[ follow ]
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
22 hours ago

My Girlfriend Let Me Do Something That Totally Embarrassed Her. It's Unlocked Something in Me I Didn't Know Existed.

Exploring newfound kinks can enhance intimacy, but communication with partners is essential for healthy relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says a woman has a beautiful soul if she has taken real pain and turned it into gentleness rather than armor - because the default response to being hurt is becoming harder, and the woman who went through the same things and came out softer instead has done something rare and almost impossible to teach - Silicon Canals

Pain can lead to gentleness, with some individuals choosing softness over hardness despite their hardships.
LGBT
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

What We Misunderstand About Jung's Shadow

Shame is often conscious for gay men, while worth, resilience, and capability remain unconscious, impacting their mental health and relationships.
Careers
fromFast Company
1 day ago

How being honest about the process of 'becoming' leads to success

Mastery and distinctiveness in art require commitment to the process, including embracing failure as a natural part of becoming oneself.
fromAbove the Law
2 days ago

Why Your Story, Engagement, And Empathy Matter More Than Ever - Above the Law

Trust begins with realness. When lawyers share their story and the reason behind their work, clients see themselves reflected in that narrative. Clients are not simply hiring legal skill; they are looking for alignment, empathy, and shared values. Storytelling bridges that gap.
Online marketing
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
1 day ago

24 "Unromantic" Secrets That Long-Term Couples Swear By To Keep The Spark Alive For Decades

Long-lasting love is built on teamwork, friendship, and shared experiences rather than grand romantic gestures.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

The hardest thing about healing isn't the work itself. It's the quiet grief of realizing how many years you spent believing the problem was you, when the actual problem was an environment that needed you to believe that in order to keep functioning - Silicon Canals

Family systems may require a child to remain unwell for their own functionality, leading to grief and loss when the child realizes their true self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours ago

Psychology says the people who finally meet themselves in their 60s and 70s aren't reinventing anything, they're meeting the original person who got buried under decades of being useful to everyone else, and the relief they feel is recognition, not discovery - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to self-discovery, revealing the original self buried under roles and responsibilities.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Life Stops: But Only for You

Illness disrupts not only physiology but also our entire sense of existence and future, leading to a profound confrontation with uncertainty and mortality.
#intimacy
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Stop Feeling Lonely in Your Relationship

Early survival habits can create emotional distance in intimate relationships, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says a truly successful life isn't measured by what you've accumulated, it's measured by whether the people closest to you feel more like themselves or less like themselves after spending time with you - Silicon Canals

Success should be measured by the quality of relationships and personal fulfillment rather than external achievements.
#friendship
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago
Relationships

There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals

Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals

Friendships that truly support you in later life often form in adulthood, not childhood, and thrive in shared silence and presence.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals

Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour ago

Psychology says deep thinkers don't realize the reason they feel disconnected from their own life isn't depression - it's that observation became a shelter they forgot how to leave - Silicon Canals

Chronic detachment often misdiagnosed as depression or stress may stem from a learned behavior of observing rather than experiencing life.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours ago

The people who seem to have the warmest, most open demeanor are often the loneliest people in any room, because being easy to be around creates the assumption that they don't need anything, and nobody thinks to ask someone who seems fine how they actually are - Silicon Canals

Performative warmth often masks deep isolation, as those who are pleasant may be the loneliest individuals in social settings.
#relationships
Relationships
fromTheZenParent
17 hours ago

Why So Many Couples Sound Like They're Managing a Startup - TheZenParent

Modern relationships increasingly resemble workplace dynamics, focusing on efficiency and productivity rather than traditional expressions of love.
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago
Relationships

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

I Just Found Out What My New Lover Used to Do With Her Husband. I Could Never Compare.

Trust your partner's feelings about your sex life and communicate openly about desires and experiences.
Relationships
fromTheZenParent
17 hours ago

Why So Many Couples Sound Like They're Managing a Startup - TheZenParent

Modern relationships increasingly resemble workplace dynamics, focusing on efficiency and productivity rather than traditional expressions of love.
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days ago

We're young, in love, and sleep in separate bedrooms. It's made our romantic life even better.

Separate bedrooms enhance personal space and sleep quality for couples, allowing for a healthier relationship dynamic.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
5 days ago

9 Signs Your Relationship Isn't Worth Fighting For

Relationships should not be a constant source of stress; if efforts to improve fail, it may be time to move on.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

I Just Found Out What My New Lover Used to Do With Her Husband. I Could Never Compare.

Trust your partner's feelings about your sex life and communicate openly about desires and experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Not everyone who says they're fine is lying. Some people genuinely cannot locate the word for what they're feeling because nobody ever sat with them long enough to help them name it, and fine became the only vocabulary they trust - Silicon Canals

Many people struggle to articulate their emotions, often responding with 'fine' due to a condition called alexithymia, which affects emotional vocabulary.
#loneliness
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours ago

There's a specific loneliness that belongs to warm, well-liked people, and it isn't caused by isolation. It's caused by being so reliably fine that nobody ever thinks to ask whether you actually are - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can affect well-liked individuals who appear fine but feel unseen and misunderstood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours ago

There's a specific loneliness that belongs to warm, well-liked people, and it isn't caused by isolation. It's caused by being so reliably fine that nobody ever thinks to ask whether you actually are - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can affect well-liked individuals who appear fine but feel unseen and misunderstood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Psychology
fromFast Company
1 day ago

Want to live a longer, happier life? Science says work to be more successful (but not in the way you might think)

Engagement in pursuing goals, rather than achieving them, correlates with longer, more fulfilling lives.
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

This Sex Position Reliably Gets Women Off, And You May Not Have Heard Of It

"Roughly two-thirds of women don't have an orgasm with penetration alone. CAT offers direct pressure and rocking and grinding that gives women additional clitoral stimulation."
Women in technology
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

5 Reasons Why People-Pleasing Hurts More Than It Helps

People-pleasing can undermine authentic connections and harm mental health, leading to resentment and exploitation in relationships.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

I'm a 50-Year-Old Man. I'm Afraid My New Turn-On Makes Me a Terrible Person.

Exploring kinks can raise concerns about underlying misogyny, but self-reflection and active support for women's issues can help address these feelings.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

How Can Survivors Regain Pleasure After Sexual Trauma?

Survivors of sexual trauma can experience a range of sexual responses, including both desire and avoidance, and their fantasies often overlap with non-victims.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Ask A MWLFT: What If The Spark Doesn't Come Back?

The empty nest may not revive a couple's sex life but reveals the underlying relationship dynamics shaped by parenting.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days ago

The emotional security secret: how to get healthier, happier and have stronger relationships

Amir Levine's new book, Secure, offers tools to help individuals develop secure attachment styles for improved relationships and longevity.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The most dangerous phase of any long marriage isn't the first year or the seven-year mark - it's the year after the kids leave, when two people who have been co-parenting for two decades have to suddenly remember how to be two people who chose each other, and most couples have forgotten what that looks like and aren't sure they'd choose again - Silicon Canals

Empty nest syndrome reveals the challenges of reconnecting with a partner after years of focusing solely on parenting.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals

Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
#relationship-advice
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship Despite Your Efforts?

Couples often become too cautious in their efforts to improve relationships, leading to unresolved issues and a lack of genuine connection.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

Help! My Boyfriend Disrespects Me Every Night at Dinner. I Don't Know How Much More I Can Take.

Disagreements over meal etiquette can mask deeper relationship issues, such as verbal mistreatment and communication problems.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship Despite Your Efforts?

Couples often become too cautious in their efforts to improve relationships, leading to unresolved issues and a lack of genuine connection.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

Help! My Boyfriend Disrespects Me Every Night at Dinner. I Don't Know How Much More I Can Take.

Disagreements over meal etiquette can mask deeper relationship issues, such as verbal mistreatment and communication problems.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Don't Manifest More Pleasure. Do This Instead

Visualising "your best life" can boost mood and create a sense of hopefulness. That good feeling you get, and the boost in your mood, are nothing to sneeze at, but-and there is a but-feeling good is not the same as creating change. And this is where it can get tricky when you are applying it to a sex life that you actively want to change.
Miscellaneous
Relationships
fromHuffPost
6 days ago

13 Sex Questions You Probably Haven't Asked Your Partner - But Should

Open communication about sex enhances intimacy and pleasure in relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals

Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

The most profound late-life love stories don't belong to the people who were waiting - they belong to the people who stopped waiting, built an entire life around not waiting, and found someone anyway in the middle of a Tuesday that was supposed to be exactly like all the other Tuesdays - Silicon Canals

Love stories often begin unexpectedly when individuals stop making finding a partner the primary goal and focus on their own lives instead.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

The Minute This Sex Toy Enters the Bedroom, My Night Is Ruined

Using vibrators during sex can create challenges for tops seeking satisfaction and connection with their partners.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I'm Having Great Sex With a Beautiful Woman. If Only She Knew What I Was Thinking About During It.

A person in a new stable relationship experiences intrusive sexual memories of a previous male partner, causing uncertainty about sexual orientation and presence during sex.
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
5 days ago

Are you a gentle partner' or a Fafo partner'? I know which team I'm on | Polly Hudson

Gentle partnering encourages active listening and empathy in relationships, particularly in challenging times.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology suggests the deepest sign someone actually respects you isn't how they treat you when things are good - it's whether they tell you the truth when the truth is uncomfortable, because most people will choose your comfort over your growth every single time to protect the relationship, and the person who risks your temporary anger to offer you something honest has decided that who you're becoming matters more to them than how you feel about them today - Silicon Canals

Honesty that prioritizes growth over comfort is a profound act of love often avoided in relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

The couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals

The quality of repair after conflict is more crucial for relationship longevity than the frequency or severity of conflicts.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

People Who Convinced Their Partners To Open Their Relationships Share How It REALLY Went For Them

Open relationships can be a solution for couples facing emotional challenges, allowing sexual freedom while maintaining a primary partnership.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

My Boyfriend Wants Me to Play a New Risque Role in Bed. But My History Will Make It Impossible.

Communicate boundaries clearly and compassionately regarding BDSM interests due to past trauma.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

Embracing 'Outercourse' Might Totally Transform Your Sex Life

Outercourse encompasses various sexual activities beyond penetration, enhancing sexual pleasure and intimacy.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

My Wife Is Begging for a Repeat of My Special Performance in Bed. I Have Bad News.

Personal sexual boundaries should be respected, but societal pressures and misogyny can complicate attitudes towards oral sex.
#sexual-desire
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Want to Teach My Girlfriend a New Trick in Bed. The Problem Is Where I Learned It From.

A man seeks advice on whether to teach his girlfriend a specific oral technique he learned from another woman during their breakup, fearing jealousy despite her stated desire to make him orgasm.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Is Making Love Different from Just Having Sex?

Making love differs from casual sex through patience, emotional intimacy, and temporal richness, involving slower, more tender interactions and deeper connection.
#sexual-communication
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.

A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.

A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Really Need My Boyfriend to Go Down on Me. What He Does Instead Is Maddening.

Sexual incompatibility rooted in unresolved fear or insecurity requires honest communication and exploration of alternative ways to express intimacy and devotion beyond specific acts.
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

Sex Therapists Say They Would NEVER Do These Things In the Bedroom

The realm of intimate relationships is wide and diverse, providing endless opportunities to discover joy, pleasure and connection. But exploring new ground without consent from both parties may cause unease, betrayals of confidence and even injury. A good sexual relationship depends on this kind of conversation because it ensures that any exploration is grounded in permission and mutual curiosity, strengthening the connection and enhancing the experience for both parties.
Relationships
fromInsideHook
1 month ago

Is This the Year You Get Back to the Basics of Sex?

In the past, when we've done these analyses, we've seen couples express an interest in bondage play or sensory play. But this year, we're almost seeing a shift towards getting back to basics. I found it so interesting that regardless of gender, age or where you live, people want more oral sex.
Relationships
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

6 Real Couples Share How They Beat Their 'Dead' Bedrooms

Sexless marriages can often be revived when both partners commit to change, practice empathy, improve communication, and learn new skills or activities.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Suggested I Try Out a New Sexual Experience. Where It Needs to Happen, Though, Is a Whole New World to Me.

Follow posted rules, bring cash, be polite, tip well, avoid touching performers, confirm extra charges, and consider visiting during slow hours.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Can Get Me to the Finish Line in Many Ways. Except the One I Really Want.

Some men cannot reach orgasm from oral stimulation; trying temporary abstinence, prostate stimulation, or adjusting stimulation dynamics may help but results are not guaranteed.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Just Told Me What She Thinks About While We Have Sex. It's So Much Worse Than I Thought.

At any point, any of your partners may have been thinking of someone (or even something) else to help themselves get over the edge. The idea of making someone orgasm with, to put it your way, just you is an illusion. People bring a lifetime of experience to the sex they have, including ways to help facilitate orgasm. Sex alone may not be enough to get your wife to come.
Relationships
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Is Midlife Sex The Best Sex?

Midlife women often experience more satisfying, empowered sexual lives due to self-knowledge, freedom from parental duties, stronger libido, and unapologetic pursuit of pleasure.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Relationship Feeling Cold? Here Are 8 Ways to Warm It Up

Warmth in interactions predicts relationship satisfaction, trust, and emotional safety, and small behaviors like smiling, curiosity, and listening strengthen bonds.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Couples Can Develop Loving Relationships Without Therapy

Learning how to securely attach is more important than learning how to argue, and people can learn EFT-based skills to build lasting, loving bonds.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Says There's Only One Way She'll Go Down on Me. I Can't Believe I'm Actually Considering It.

If a partner refuses a sexual act for personal reasons, pursue willing partners at open-sex events rather than undergoing surgery.
[ Load more ]