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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

There's a specific kind of person who answers 'what do you want for dinner' with 'whatever you want' and isn't being easygoing. They genuinely lost access to the question a long time ago, in a house where wanting things drew the wrong kind of attention. - Silicon Canals

People who say 'whatever you want' often struggle with expressing preferences due to past experiences that made wanting unsafe.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Digital life
fromThe Walrus
2 days ago

I Was Lonely and Let an App Pick My New Friends. Here's How It Went | The Walrus

Friend-making apps are gaining popularity in big cities, offering a way to connect with others amidst busy lifestyles.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
#ai-in-dating
Relationships
fromwww.cbc.ca
4 weeks ago

How AI is infiltrating the dating world, from crafting flirty messages to matchmaking | CBC News

AI is transforming online dating, creating challenges in authenticity and connection for users.
Relationships
fromwww.cbc.ca
4 weeks ago

How AI is infiltrating the dating world, from crafting flirty messages to matchmaking | CBC News

AI is transforming online dating, creating challenges in authenticity and connection for users.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
8 hours ago

What Does It Really Mean to Belong in Love?

Belonging in romantic relationships means being a valued part of someone's life, not possession, and is linked to greater satisfaction.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

Psychology says true love in your 50s and beyond doesn't look like the version you were sold, it isn't the spark or the intensity or the certainty, it's the quiet Tuesday evening you're tired and a bit unkind, and the person across from you stays in the room without making it mean anything - Silicon Canals

Real love after sixty is quieter, stronger, and built on understanding rather than chaos and grand gestures.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says a truly successful life isn't measured by what you've accumulated, it's measured by whether the people closest to you feel more like themselves or less like themselves after spending time with you - Silicon Canals

Success should be measured by the quality of relationships and personal fulfillment rather than external achievements.
#online-dating
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

I felt like I'd stumbled on a cheat code': what is the burned haystack dating method?

Dr. Jennie Young created the Burned Haystack Dating Method to help find long-term partners amidst the challenges of online dating.
Psychology
fromMail Online
1 month ago

No luck on Tinder? Why should REMOVE your best qualities from profile

Dating profiles featuring personal stories attract more romantic interest than profiles listing qualities as bullet points, because narratives create empathy and human connection.
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago
Relationships

We've Always Been Mesmerized by Stories of How Couples Met. There's a Far More Interesting Question to Ask.

Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

I felt like I'd stumbled on a cheat code': what is the burned haystack dating method?

Dr. Jennie Young created the Burned Haystack Dating Method to help find long-term partners amidst the challenges of online dating.
Psychology
fromMail Online
1 month ago

No luck on Tinder? Why should REMOVE your best qualities from profile

Dating profiles featuring personal stories attract more romantic interest than profiles listing qualities as bullet points, because narratives create empathy and human connection.
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago
Relationships

We've Always Been Mesmerized by Stories of How Couples Met. There's a Far More Interesting Question to Ask.

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals

Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
#dating-apps
fromTechCrunch
3 weeks ago
Startup companies

A new dating app, Sonder, has a deliberately annoying sign-up process (and it's working) | TechCrunch

Startup companies
fromTechCrunch
3 weeks ago

A new dating app, Sonder, has a deliberately annoying sign-up process (and it's working) | TechCrunch

Sonder aims to revolutionize dating apps by creating a more authentic and engaging user experience through unstructured profiles and unique in-person events.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 week ago

Men Share The Things People Do On Dating Apps That Give Them The Total Ick

Men have specific dealbreakers that help them find meaningful connections on dating apps, focusing on values, respect, and communication.
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
2 weeks ago

I came up with the 'burned haystack' dating method. It helped me find Mr. Right.

The Burned Haystack Dating Method helps women navigate dating apps, but personal experiences led to a temporary withdrawal from dating.
#relationship-dynamics
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Reassurance Is Not the Same as Repair

Daniel and Marcus's relationship, built on reliability, faced challenges due to mutual avoidance of difficult emotions, leading to disconnection.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Relationships

I used to think I was bad at relationships until I realized I was just choosing people who needed an audience, not a partner - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago
Relationships

Psychology says couples who've been happily married for 30+ years all stopped doing this one thing that most newlyweds think is essential - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Reassurance Is Not the Same as Repair

Daniel and Marcus's relationship, built on reliability, faced challenges due to mutual avoidance of difficult emotions, leading to disconnection.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Relationships

I used to think I was bad at relationships until I realized I was just choosing people who needed an audience, not a partner - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago
Relationships

Psychology says couples who've been happily married for 30+ years all stopped doing this one thing that most newlyweds think is essential - Silicon Canals

#dating
fromIndependent
2 months ago
Relationships

Taking my search for love offline: 'Set-ups, ethical matchmaking and the best first date I've ever had'

Relationships
fromElite Traveler
5 days ago

Elite Matchmakers Explain the Real Gap in Modern Dating

Modern dating criteria now include social access and the significance of dining choices, reflecting deeper social signals among the wealthy.
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

Placeholder partners: are you the one' or just being used as a stopgap?

Placeholder partners are temporary relationships where one person believes they have a future together, but the other does not.
fromIndependent
2 months ago
Relationships

Taking my search for love offline: 'Set-ups, ethical matchmaking and the best first date I've ever had'

#relationships
Relationships
fromBustle
6 days ago

TikTok's Viral "Rock & Star" Dating Theory Makes So Much Sense

The best relationships are formed between a rock and a star, providing balance and support.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend's ChatGPT. It Ended Our Relationship.

A partner's private doubts about a relationship can be devastating to discover, especially when shared with an AI.
Relationships
fromBustle
6 days ago

TikTok's Viral "Rock & Star" Dating Theory Makes So Much Sense

The best relationships are formed between a rock and a star, providing balance and support.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend's ChatGPT. It Ended Our Relationship.

A partner's private doubts about a relationship can be devastating to discover, especially when shared with an AI.
fromMail Online
1 month ago

Scientists reveal where you're going WRONG on your dating profile

Your profile should first and foremost appeal to you and reflect who you are. If you want to add a touch of authenticity, you can include something slightly different that feels genuinely yours. Choosing a strategy based on social desirability strips us of authenticity and blurs our identity as individuals. It protects us, but at the same time it stereotypes us.
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Artificial intelligence
fromFast Company
1 month ago

People in romantic relationships with AI want more than just 'smut' from ChatGPT

OpenAI delays rollout of adult-oriented ChatGPT features due to safety concerns with age verification systems that misclassify minors as adults approximately 10% of the time.
from24/7 Wall St.
1 month ago

Bumble's AI Dating Concierge Sparked a Reddit Sentiment Flip From 29 to 76

Bee learns users' values, relationship goals, and communication style through private chats, then surfaces matches with compatibility explanations. Bumble is also experimenting with removing the traditional swipe mechanic entirely in select markets, replacing it with chapter-based profiles designed to fight swipe fatigue among Gen Z users.
Venture
fromThe Atlantic
1 month ago

A Dating-App Nightmare

Valentin would then offer just one more drink and drug his dates senseless, officials familiar with a widening investigation into his behavior claim. As the women drifted into oblivion, they have alleged to cops, he would help them into his car with an offer to grab a nightcap, then film himself raping them. He left little trace: His victims rarely had any recollection of what had happened, officials claim.
US news
Artificial intelligence
fromTNW | Lifestyle
1 month ago

Bumble's AI assistant Bee will learn what you want from a relationship

Bumble launched Bee, an AI dating assistant that replaces swiping with personalized matchmaking by learning user preferences and surfacing compatible matches with compatibility explanations.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Death of Romance?

According to a 2025 poll by Rassmussen, 37% of single adults under 30 in the US report that they are "not interested" in dating at all. It appears that many young Americans have effectively given up on romance. This begs the question of why so many young people would forego one of the most basic physical, social, and emotional human needs: an intimate relationship with a loving partner.
Miscellaneous
Digital life
fromBusiness Insider
1 month ago

Tinder wants you to meet people offline. Its CEO tells us it's responding to 'changing consumer tastes.'

Tinder is launching new 2026 features including astrology matching, AI photo enhancements, and in-person Events to combat swipe fatigue and attract users frustrated with online dating.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Psychology of Loyalty: It's Not About Options

Loyalty stems from character and internal values, not from lack of better options; it represents a deliberate choice rooted in integrity and identity.
Artificial intelligence
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months ago

No swiping involved: the AI dating apps promising to find your soulmate

Agentic AI dating apps replace swiping with AI-led onboarding, matching and coaching to reduce repetitive interactions and loneliness while provoking uncanny concerns.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Unconscious Relationship Patterns That Shape Who We Love

Relationship patterns stem from multiple factors beyond attachment theory, including temperament, biology, culture, spirituality, and unconscious psychological processes rooted in past experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I've Fallen in Love. But This Is the One Sort of Person I'm Not "Supposed" to Be With.

Sexual orientation and romantic attraction can be fluid and evolve throughout life; mutual love and attraction are valuable regardless of how they fit previous self-definitions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

People who say they "don't have a type" actually have the most predictable patterns in dating - Silicon Canals

Many people repeatedly choose partners with similar personality traits and behavioral patterns, even when they believe each relationship is different.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Are Romantic Couples Really the Winners?

The researchers think it is fine to tell you only about the time it took each participant to get out of the box. After all, it is a study of box-escaping skill. Often, there is a highly relevant context to the story that is not mentioned. In my hypothetical example, it looks like this: The single person is in the box on the left. The door is shut, and there are boulders in front of it. The top of the box is taped shut.
Psychology
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Myths About Attraction to Forget Before Valentine's Day

Personality similarity, physiological synchrony, and shared traits strongly predict romantic attraction, refuting the 'opposites attract' idea.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

The were dating AI partners when they found real love with each other

At first, I would just chat with it like a normal human being, then started testing its memory. Later, in a stereotypical girl way, I tried to see if it could read between the lines—if it could sense when I meant more than I was saying. It was surprisingly very good at reading between the lines. I personalised it to be flirtatious and assertive.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Secret to Getting Beyond the First Date

Have you ever sat across from someone who you felt was challenging or having a funny reaction to you? These are emotional reactions that are probably not fully under conscious control. Otherwise, you would probably just be amused by other people's quirks and reactions and not "feel" any particular way about them. (And, no, I am not saying to ignore your serial killer vibes-if you get those, run away!)
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

People who have dozens of acquaintances but no one they can call at 2 am usually display these 7 quiet traits, according to psychology - Silicon Canals

You know that feeling when your phone buzzes with party invites, your LinkedIn connections hit four digits, and your calendar stays packed with coffee dates and networking events? Yet when life throws you a curveball at 2 am-maybe you're stranded with a dead car battery, or anxiety has you wide awake-you scroll through your contacts and realize there's no one you can actually call. If this hits close to home, you're not alone.
Psychology
Relationships
fromThe Atlantic
2 months ago

Most People Don't Have a 'Type'

People's stated partner preferences often differ from who they actually fall for; attraction frequently arises to partners lacking declared must-haves.
Relationships
fromBig Think
2 months ago

Science shows curiosity is at the heart of great dates-and lasting love

Structured, escalating reciprocal personal self-disclosure accelerates intimacy and can generate rapid emotional closeness between partners.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says the more intelligent a man is the harder it is to find a girlfriend - Silicon Canals

High intelligence can hinder romantic success by promoting overanalysis, turning dates into problem-solving and creating barriers to genuine emotional connection.
Relationships
fromMail Online
2 months ago

Forget 'The One': Most people fall in love TWICE in their lifetime

Most people experience passionate love about twice in their lifetime, with significant minorities experiencing none or four-plus passionate loves.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

3 Strategies for Indirectly Asking Someone Out

Indirect strategies for asking someone out can reduce anxiety and awkwardness by addressing six core concerns that typically prevent people from initiating romantic relationships.
Relationships
fromWIRED
2 months ago

I Ditched Hinge for an AI Matchmaker, to Mixed Results

AI-integrated matchmaking lowers cost but risks replacing genuine human conversation with formulaic AI-driven interactions.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Three Roads Diverged in Romantic Life

Profound love is about the desire to live with a partner who can thrive in a mutual relationship. Sometimes, life wins out over love, and one partner may say, "I will always love you, but we cannot flourish together." Profound love isn't always synonymous with long-term love; some couples divorce despite deep affection. The heart of enduring love is the capacity to bring out the best in each other.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

Help! I Was Set Up on a Blind Date. Nothing Could've Prepared Me for Who It Would Be.

Kyle was incredibly panicked when I opened the door, and he saw it was me. He begged me not to say anything to his wife. According to Kyle, he has been miserable in his marriage, and seeing other women on the side helps him "maintain his sanity." I was so flustered in the moment that I agreed to keep my mouth shut.
Relationships
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months ago

Blind date: My friends would adore her. She is a cupcake in a world of muffins'

Blind Date pairs two strangers for dinner, publishes their Q&A and photographs every Saturday, and invites UK applicants to apply with honest, respectful answers and personal details.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

If You Want a Second Date, Avoid These Things on the First

Make a strong, punctual, and appropriately dressed first-date impression by avoiding risqué behavior, arriving on time, and moderating appearance and distance.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

2 'Annoying Habits' That Show Your Partner Really Loves You

Deep, durable love is expressed through willingness to engage with discomfort and address unresolved issues, not just through comfort and validation.
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

Does Your Relationship Pass The '777 Rule'?

"The 777 rule is a viral framework that encourages couples to spend consistent, intentional time together," said Julie Nguyen, a dating coach with the dating app Hily. "The guideline suggests couples to go on a date every seven days, take a weekend trip every seven weeks, and go on a longer vacation every seven months."
Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

These 2 Personality Types Couldn't Be More Opposite. But Experts Say They're A Solid Romantic Match.

There are two types of people in the world: type A and type B. Or so common wisdom says, anyway - of course, as with anything human, we're all much more complex than that. Still, sorting people into type A and type B categories can sometimes serve as useful shorthand for understanding ourselves and others. This is especially true in romantic relationships.
Relationships
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

5 Warning Signs to Spot Before Starting a Serious Relationship

Alignment in basic values between partners predicts more harmonious relationships; warning signs and inconsistent worldviews should not be ignored when evaluating new relationships.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Tinder Calls 'Clear Coding' a 2026 Dating Trend

Clear coding in dating means communicating honestly about who you are, what you want, and your intentions without hidden meanings or deception.
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

This 'Lazy' Dating Habit Sabotages Men's Efforts

According to Feeld, nearly seven in 10 straight millennial men have never updated, or rarely update, their dating app profiles since first filling them out. This raises a question: Is this lack of care an early warning of the future burden women might have to shoulder in relationships?
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychologists say this communication style predicts relationship longevity better than compatibility - Silicon Canals

But psychologists studying long-term couples have discovered something surprising: compatibility isn't the strongest predictor of whether relationships last. Instead, research points to a specific communication style that distinguishes couples who go the distance from those who don't. It's not about how often you communicate, how well you express love, or even how skillfully you resolve conflicts. It's about something more fundamental-a pattern of interaction that either strengthens your bond over time or slowly erodes it.
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