Parenting
fromWIRED
13 hours agoThe Moms Who Sponcon Their Daughters' First Periods
Momfluencers face immense pressure to present idealized motherhood while risking their children's safety and well-being online.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
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Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days agoStarting a Family: If Not Now, Then When?
Cultural pressures create a double bind around timing, leading to self-blame and uncertainty in major life decisions like parenthood.
Writing
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks agoHas It Become Taboo to Admit to Wanting Children?
Becoming a parent can challenge societal beliefs about motherhood and happiness.
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Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day agoMy Wife Is Struggling With a Very Basic Part of Parenting. I Can't Keep Swooping In to Save Her!
Managing emotional responses in parenting is crucial for effective problem-solving with young children.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoChildren who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals
Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.
Mental health
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
4 days agoTrapped and Alone: Fear of ICE Is Deepening Postpartum Isolation for Immigrant Mothers | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Immigrant mothers face isolation and stress during childbirth due to fears of deportation and separation from family.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPeople who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals
Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoMy mother still introduces me to people as her baby and I used to find it embarrassing and now I let her because I understand that the introducing is not about me at all - it is about a woman in her 70s who still has her baby, and that is something worth letting her have - Silicon Canals
A mother's affection can evoke mixed feelings, but understanding her perspective can transform embarrassment into appreciation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI grew up watching my mother apologize to my father for having opinions and I spent twenty years thinking I'd broken the pattern until my partner said 'you always start your sentences with sorry' and I heard her voice come out of my mouth. - Silicon Canals
Intergenerational relationship patterns persist in automatic physical and verbal behaviors despite conscious awareness, operating below the level of deliberate choice.
Women in technology
fromIndependent
1 month agoMotherhood unfiltered: 'There was fear the entire time. It's probably the reason I don't think I'll have another child'
Mother's Day presents emotional complexity for many women, particularly those experiencing infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, or unfulfilled motherhood desires.
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Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoMy Mother's New Fixation Is Terrifying My Daughter. She's Got to Stop.
A grandmother's repeated talk of impending death is frightening a 7-year-old; parents should establish boundaries with the grandmother and have an age-appropriate conversation with their child about mortality.
Left-wing politics
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoThe right has won the family': why are there so few lefty momfluencers?
Polished mommy-influencer content soothes with domestic routines but sparks anxiety about creators' politics, driving a desire for algorithmic feeds that confirm progressive values.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWho Gets to Be a Mother?
We'd been working together for years to make my medication regimen-treatment for schizoaffective disorder-safe for potential pregnancy. Under her care, I was tapering off an antidepressant known to cause respiratory distress and hypertension in a newborn. I'd been experiencing wild mood swings, even suicidal thoughts. My beloved doctor's eyes were sad. "I'm saying no to a pregnancy, Meg." Even in the moment, I understood her priority as a physician was to keep me safe. Still, part of me hated her.
Mental health
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoHonesty about the realities of motherhood, and proper NHS support, would go a long way | Letters
Perinatal care and societal narratives often neglect and fail women experiencing severe mental health issues after childbirth, leaving many without adequate support.
fromScary Mommy
2 months agoThis Mom Says That The Woman With The Happiest Relationships Are "Useless"
"The smartest women with the happiest relationships are the useless women," Dianna Lee begins in her video. "As you can probably tell, I'm a highly capable woman. I'm capable throughout all areas of my life, through my schooling days, to my career, and I attacked my marriage life in exactly the same way. I just executed. I was fast, efficient, and I knew exactly what needed to get done. And in retrospect, it was so wrong."
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoHelp! There's an Unspoken Rule About What Makes a "Good Woman." It All Comes Down to One Chore.
One of my late mother's widowed friends made the comment, "Finally I can have a scrambled egg for dinner. I'm never making another meatloaf again." And this was a woman who had loved her husband and had a pretty good marriage. Her grown kids were upset that when they came home to visit, "Mama isn't cooking anymore!" Yeah, Mama didn't care.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoI've Always Known What Kind of Person My Mother Is. Unfortunately, My 3-Year-Old Has Figured It Out, Too.
It's easy to get caught up in what we believe we owe our parents. But we shouldn't forget what we owe ourselves, or our children. It's great that your child was able to communicate her discomfort to you. She has let you know that she 'really, really' doesn't want to visit your mom. And now I think she needs you to pay attention to those things.
Parenting
fromenglish.elpais.com
2 months agoI don't like my mother': Why do children decide to distance themselves from their parents?
Parents hold a key that grants access to areas of their child's life that no one else can enter a foundational intimacy. However, more and more people are choosing to sever that bond and throw the key away. It's difficult to quantify how many children have decided to stop speaking to their parents, although some studies point to a steady increase in recent years.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month agoBoy Mom, Girl Mom, One-And-Done Mom: When Did Parenting Get So Niche?
Very accomplished women were leading with it everywhere: on Instagram, sure, but also in professional bios and embroidered sweatshirts. Founders and bestselling authors were introducing themselves first not by what they had built or accomplished, but by who they had produced.
Parenting
Parenting
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoI went into motherhood an oblivious idiot - and I don't regret it | Emma Beddington
Excessive knowledge about motherhood's challenges creates ambivalence about having children, while insufficient knowledge leaves parents unprepared for the reality of parenthood.
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago16 Parents Confess The Brutally Honest Reasons Why They Regret Having Kids, And It's Important
A woman who had a child due to cultural pressure rather than personal desire experiences parenting as responsibility without maternal fulfillment, and would choose not to have children if given the choice.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago8 things boomer mothers did that seemed ordinary then but would be considered remarkable parenting today - Silicon Canals
Boomer mothers practiced instinctive, low-tech parenting—letting kids be bored, play outdoors, and share family meals—that modern parents now often praise.
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